For the past 18 years in our house the arrival of fall has meant a new school year begins. For the most part, I’ve really enjoyed my sons’ school experiences. This is my fourth year managing the household alone, as a divorced mom. Now the oldest is away at college and it’s just the 15-year-old high school sophomore and me.
One aspect of school that has become a major challenge is HOMEWORK.
I hated homework when I was in school. But I did it. I think homework is busy work and fairly worthless. But my opinion doesn’t really matter in this debate. I have no power or control because my son has to do it or suffer through another year of inconsistent, sometimes mediocre grades. Second semester last year was brutal. I am sick of this smart kid getting a bunch of zeros in the homework column, so I have to do something about it.
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Like many boys, as an elementary school student my 15-year-old loved school and took great pride in making his teachers, his dad and I proud of his scholastic accomplishments. But today, all he cares about are his friends and sports. Now don’t get it twisted, he still loves school. You see it’s quite a clever institution, incorporating both his primary interests – friends and sports. However, it’s my job as custodial parent to make sure he is getting the most out of school. I don’t want to see him disappointed in a few years when the students who worked hard are getting acceptance letters to their desired colleges and he is not.
As an African American mom, I also have to be honest and state the whole ‘achievement gap’ issue is swirling around in my mind. I don’t want him to be a statistic.
I am not a helicopter-style parent. I understand that it is really my son’s responsibility to buckle down and get the work done. But prodding and punishment didn’t work last year. So it’s my job to incorporate a system in our household to make this decision more of a ‘no-brainer’ for him.