Life Lessons: Educator’s Edition…
Tiffany Barker-Sterling

Welcome to a special edition of Good Enough Mother Life Lessons! With school right around the corner, we thought it would be great to devote some time and space to the people who are so good to our kids.. educators! Hope you enjoy these special Life Lessons and happy school year to teacher, students AND their parents!

Are you happy at the moment?

Absolutely!! I am very happy at this moment! I am normally a very happy person on a daily basis.

If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?

Love yourself and value yourself enough, to know that God really does love you and have a plan and purpose designed just for you. You don’t have to do things to please people, your focus should be to please God and let God deal with the people. Know that you have more in you than you can see right now, and you are going to do great things that go beyond just serving you, but you have what it takes to change the world.

What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?

This year, the most important thing I’ve learned was the VALUE in waiting and being patient. I moved back to NJ from Dallas back in September, and in the midst of my transition I had to learn to be still, be patient and believe MORE than what I see.

What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?

In the next 12 months the most I desire to achieve would be to have a radio show successfully going, to finish the three books that I’m working on and to focus on blogging to interact and encourage as many people as I can.

What’s your secret to happiness?

My secret to happiness is realizing that I can do ALL things through CHRIST who strengthens me. Regardless how bad something may ‘appear’ does not mean it’s bad in my reality. All things, (regardless of what the situation is), I firmly stand believing that ALL THINGS will and are working together for my good, no matter what. I live my life this way, day to day, minute by minute, second by second. Life is to short and going by too fast to not realize how enjoyable it really is or can be.

What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?

I have a solid foundation with God. I know what God says about me, and to be quite honest, nothing else matters. My faith and daily time with God is what keeps me focused, faithful and faith-filled!

What’s your biggest regret?

My biggest regret was not being in NJ at the time my grandmother died. I was living in Dallas and took for granted that she was going to live during the time she battled stomach cancer.

What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?

The most important lesson that I’ve taught the youth & young adults that I’ve taught, is that no matter what, they are loved and love conquers ALL things. There’s nothing that cannot be achieved, nothing that cannot be fixed, and that God loves them and wants MORE than the best for their life.

What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?

The bad habit that I have, is being too nice! It’s not in me to be malicious, return hate for hate, back-bite and do things that I know many people engage in. Even when people have hurt me, double crossed me and cut me, I still love them and would do anything for them. That’s one my bad habits that I would like to change. It’s okay to be nice, but there needs to be boundaries.

Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?

I am most proud of living and not merely existing. I am humbled and privileged to be alive to serve. That’s what is the MOST accomplishment that I am proud of at this stage in my life. It’s an honor simply to serve my family, the community, my church family and my social network family and friends.

When were you happiest?

The happiest moment in my life was when I was living in Dallas. In Dallas, is where I had breathing room to grow into the woman that I am now. The experiences that I’ve conquered, the trials and triumphs while I was in Dallas STILL makes my living there my happiest moment.

What ten words best describe you?

Loving. Giving. Servant. Dedicated. Funny. Kind. Hard-worker. Conqueror. Optimistic. Very Social (I LOVE people)

What’s the biggest way parents can help you in the coming year?

The biggest way parents can help me this coming year, is by seeing more in their children/young adults than the educators. Understanding the role of an educator is to educate, and be all that we can be to tend to the children that we interact with, but don’t mistake it as our responsibility to become the parent.

My name is Tiffany Barker-Sterling. I am 35 years old and I currently reside in New Jersey. I am an aspiring Radio Host and author along with being the Young Adult Ministry Director at my home church, Cathedral International in Perth Amboy, NJ. I write a blog called Talks With Tiff…come check it out!

I am very well known for being one who is a motivator and encourager. I have had a couple of speaking engagements in Atlantic City and Pleasantville, NJ to young adults, along with assisting a gospel radio show with their “Moment for the Youth”. My passion is people and to see as many as possible live a life of freedom in being who they are without shame regardless of their past. I live my life to love and bring about solutions to those who feel there is no way out.

I am a widow, a God-mother to six children, a ministry director, a mentor to many (ages range from 15-50years old), and a lover of life. Find me on Twitter @MsTiffanyBarker and on Facebook.

I live my life by the following: 1 Corinthians 9:19 & 22- 19 Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible; 22 To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some.