Ask Rene: Living Together
Versus Love Everlasting….
What Should I Do?
I’m hoping you can help me. My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married. Even though he loves me, he’s not sure he wants to be married again (it would be a second marriage for both of us). Now, here’s the rub.
We’re supposed to move in together this fall; he thinks it makes more financial sense to live together now. But I would like to wait until we are at least engaged. On the other hand, I really don’t want to lose him and I think if we do move in together it will be easier for him to propose.
Should I wait until we’re engaged to live together or just do it now?
Waiting and willing
Dear W and W:
Let me start with your last sentence first.. “I think if we do move in together it will be easier for him to propose.”
You know what will be easier? For the two of you to settle into a comfortable routine that looks something like this:
You work hard and so does he. On Friday night, you’re both too tired to go out, so as soon as you get home, he takes off his pants (trust me, I’ve seen this in action) and orders a pizza and a six-pack. You will then get comfortable on the sofa, binge-watching 30 Rock on Netflix for the next several hours before falling into bed. The only thing that will change will be the channels and the toppings on your pizza. Maybe.
So, here’s what I would do if I were you.