Monday Morning Motivation:
Don’t Let What You THINK Mess Up What IS..
Hey all! Happy Monday!
Checking in from Charleston, South Carolina where Ella and I survived the 841 mile drive with with two teens, a toddler and a dog. Let me say, for the record, it was not a pretty sight when we straggled across the state line at o-dark-thirty. But now, after a few days of rest, we’re back to nearly full-speed, kicking off the week, as we usually do, with Monday Morning Motivation.
Question for you: Has your life turned out the way you thought it would?
When I was in my early 20’s, I had it all figured out (didn’t we ALL?); I was going to marry the man of my dreams (after I met the man of my dreams) at 23, have my first baby by 25, second one by 27 and, of course, somewhere in there, have a wildly successful career, complete with accolades, awards and money.
Then real life set in.
The first thing to go awry in my plan? I didn’t marry the man of my dreams until almost a decade after what plan timeline.
I didn’t have my first kid until I was 33; the second came after I was 35.
Eeek! Now we’re really off track!
Damn, damn, damn.
But guess what? In those things I learned an important lesson; the life you plan will not be the life you lead so we need to make the best of the one that is one that is there.
That means no more wishing for what we once had or lamenting what we don’t. It means being fully present in every single experience. It means being grateful for what we do have and for God’s sake, not comparing ourselves to others.
There was one other gaping hole in my life’s roadmap; did you see what it was?
It ended at age 30!
That’s right, there was nothing after the kids and career. I guess it was supposed to be smooth sailing from that point on since I would have learned all I needed.
As I look back now, through the prism of perspective, what made perfect sense 25 years ago, is literally laughable now. How is it I thought the learning or personal growth would stop at 30? Or any age, for that matter?
Every one of the things I’ve experienced in the two decades past the blueprint expiration date, have molded me into the person I am and as difficult as some of them were, I’m thankful for them.
So today’s Monday Morning Motivation contains a challenge for you. Stop longing for the life you don’t have and live the one you do. Make the most of it, hardships and all. Lean into the wind; let it tousle your hair and teach you in the process. Try the things that scare the crap out of you. Embrace the fact that, while you may not be able to control what happens to you, you can control how you react to it.
And then live the life in front of you, not long for the one that will never be.
How about you? Do you do that? Do you see learning as lifelong and are you excited for the lessons to come? Or are you stuck, wishing for the glory days of the past? How’s that workin’ for you?
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