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10 From GEM: Relationship 911! 10 Romantic Ways To Add Some Spark

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10 From GEM:
Relationship 911! 10 Romantic Ways To Add Some Spark

No romantic relationship is immune to losing some of its excitement once both parties are in it long enough. It’s impossible to maintain the passion of a new relationship every single day for years, particularly once your lives are entangled with bills and kids. If you find yourself looking at your partner, wondering, how did we get here? you’re not alone. But there’s no reason to continue on a downward spiral. Read on for 10 things you can do today to put the spark back in your relationship.

 

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1. REVISIT YOUR PAST 

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Creative Commons/Azmil77

Think back to the time when your love was new. You saw movies together, you enjoyed some of the same music, and you had a favorite restaurant or meal. You probably have good memories associated with that time, so revisit your past. As a couple, watch the movie you saw on your first date. Have dinner at that little cafe you both loved. These kinds of activities can remind you why you fell in love in the first place.

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2. HAVE A DATE NIGHT ONCE A WEEK

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Creative Commons/BroodingSkies

When a relationship is in or headed toward crisis mode, it’s important to spend time together dating, even if you’re past the dating phase. If you can’t go out once a week because of time or money, date night should still be an inviolable priority. Have something that you do together each week during a certain block of time and stick to it.

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3. LEAVE LOVE NOTES EVERYWHERE 

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Creative Commons/Serena178

At some point along the love line, you might find yourself giving or receiving notes that look something like this: please pick up milk on your way home. Functional, yes. Endearing? No. Try leaving love notes in surprising places for your partner every day. Sometimes they can be sweet and gushy; other times flirty and sexy. Your sweet baboo will look forward to finding and reading your words of affection. You don’t need to be great with words. A few sincere lines are enough to breathe new life into your relationship.

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4. SHARE A DAILY RITUAL

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Creative Commons/rbrucemontgomery

Find something that you and your partner can spend a few minutes doing together every day. Have a cup of coffee before the kids get up, take an evening stroll, meet for lunch, or spend a few minutes before bedtime talking about something fun. A ritual that’s tailor made just for you will help you two reconnect.

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5. SHOW AFFECTION

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Creative Commons/harucom 

Human touch is necessary for emotional survival. Since touch is so important, it seems awful to deprive your partner of it. A kiss, a hug, a massage, a pat on the butt, or smoothing his or her hair are all ways to lift the spirits of the one you love and add to their level of happiness. It costs nothing and it has mental and emotional benefits for the giver, too. So reach out and touch your partner today.

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6. MAINTAIN INTIMACY

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Creative Commons/NeOsOuLmUzik

Sex is integral to a relationship. Without it, things become stale and you two could become more like roommates than lovers. Make regular physical intimacy a priority. Schedule it if you have to. It’s that important in order to have a healthy and happy romance.

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7. LAUGH TOGETHER

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Creative Commons/kasimages

Yes, you probably have heard all those jokes and stories your boo has told you a bazillion times. You know the upshot of it all, but listen patiently and laugh anyway. Sharing a joke is a great way to connect. If you and your honey bunny are necessarily funny seeing a comedy on television or in the movies together works or go to a comedy show. Laughter is the ultimate way to take pleasure in your partner’s company.

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8. SHARE A SECRET

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Creative Commons/rafhuggins

Everybody has secrets. Share one with your life mate. You don’t have to share something that’s painful to talk about, just something that they may not know that you said, did, or felt. It’s a more meaningful secret if you share one about your lover. Maybe they don’t know about the butterflies you felt on the day you met. Sharing this kind of information will bring on great memories.

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9. GIVE EACH OTHER GIFTS

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Creative Commons/ProfessionalsWA/NT

Of course, you give and receive gifts on holidays and birthdays. So does the entire world. But an unexpected gift just because it’s a Tuesday or your sweetie has a beautiful smile is an easy way to show your appreciation and revitalize that loving feeling. The gifts only need to be thoughtful, not large or expensive.

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10. FORGET THE PAST

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Creative Commons/thelostshot

We started this 10 From GEM by saying you should revisit the past. Now we’re saying forget the past. It’s not a contradiction–you should forgive old hurts and move your relationship forward. Revisiting and reliving the painful parts of your history isn’t productive and doesn’t exactly induce feelings of love and joy. When you can forgive your mate (and sometimes yourself) for things that were done and said in the past, you are on your way to building a whole new, happier, spark-filled relationship.

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What about you? What do you to liven up your relationship when the flame starts to go out? Share your ideas below.

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Alexis Trass Walker lives in Gary, Indiana, with her husband and four children. She is a stay at home mom and writer who loves all things chocolate. Read more about Alexis on her blog lilliebelle.org, email her at alexistrasswalker@gmail.com, or follow her on Twitter @LillieBelle5.

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