Life Lessons: Maria Smith
Are you happy at the moment?
I am. I’m a lot of things actually and happy is definitely one of them.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
“You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You were meant to be here. God will always love you.” I need to say that to my 36-year-old self, too.
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I’ve learned I have limits. By adding a fourth baby, I’ve been forced to slow down a bit, to plan ahead a lot more and to rid myself of the guilt saying “no” caused me in the past.
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
An overnight kid-free vacation. That might sound bad because I love being a mom, but the thought of spending days alone with my husband makes me almost giddy.
What’s your secret to happiness?
I truly believe I am where I’m supposed to be in this world. It gives you a peaceful feeling to know everything is unfolding as it should. When I get stressed out or when trouble comes calling, I focus on the idea that God is with me and no matter what all is right with the world.
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Every night before I go to bed, I check in on my kids as they sleep. I pull their covers up and kiss them goodnight and I thank God for them. It is so easy to see them as sweet angels when their sleeping.
What’s your biggest regret?
Spending so much time believing the negative things people have said about me.
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Not to say “can’t”. They are not allowed to say that word in our house. I want to teach them that nothing is impossible for them to accomplish. They can ask for help but they can’t say “can’t”.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I still care too much about what people think.
Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I’m proud of taking the leap and switching career paths. When I was a “big time” TV producer, I took a look at the women in leadership positions and realized I wanted something else for my future. They led fabulous lives but I felt a different calling. I walked away from a six-figure salary and the hottest show in daytime TV. I met my husband three months later. And within three years I was married with a baby and leading the life I was meant to live.
Who is your favorite Disney princess and what has she taught you about parenting?
Tiana. She never gave up on her dreams. I try to instill her same perseverance and commitment in my kids.
What ten words best describe you?
Hopeful, prayerful, faithful, powerful, soulful, joyful, helpful, grateful, purposeful, and resourceful.
Maria Smith is a wife and an on-the-go stay at home mom of four kids ages six and under. When not changing diapers, she likes to travel, read, and get her Zumba on. She is a freelance writer and blogs about food, fun, fashion and finds for moms at MamaliciousMaria.