Why Is My Sister-In-Law So EVIL?
I have been with my husband for seven years, married for four of those. My sister-in-law doesn’t like me and I have no clue why. Admittedly she is better as of about a year now since she found Jesus. Now she doesn’t blatantly disrespect me anymore like she once did, but she won’t talk to me and won’t speak and when we are at a family function, you can cut the tension.
I used to buy her two boys school clothes and take them places to which she would say to her brothers, “I guess the b*tch wants me to like her.” WHO DOES THAT! By the way, she has no job and their father is absent.
I am just so over her, her attitude, her rudeness. This woman is 39 with a baby by a nobody and lives with her mom and stepdad in a 2-bedroom apartment.
My husband says he isn’t going to get involved; he says that she is stubborn and I am too, so he doesn’t see a resolution, but if she calls and needs something, he will usually do it; a ride somewhere, the whole food stamp/money exchange so she can get cash, logging into her bank account, cashing her meager child support checks, faxing documents, and applying for jobs online.
I am livid that he can do for her/them, but he can’t demand that they respect me. I shouldn’t have to “ask” him to help make things right. It makes me question his love/devotion/respect for me OR wonder if he just doesn’t have the balls to stand up for his wife.
I really want my husband to put me first because I am his family, too.
Over The Drama
I’ve been writing Ask Rene here for three solid years now, though the site has been around much longer. There are three types of letters I get more than all the others; they are a) My daughter is dating a loser, b) My mother-in-law doesn’t like me and c) I hate my sister-in-law. Seriously, I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard this complaint. But here’s the bottom line: YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE!
Now, having said that, here are a few things you need to remember and what I would do if I were you.