Why Can’t My Neighbor Keep Her Kids QUIET?
Hi Rene. I just love reading Good Enough Mother and I was hoping you’d be able to help with my situation. My family just moved into a first floor apartment. The woman upstairs and her children are so extremely loud. She has two toddlers and those boys scream. I mean they SCREAM. The thumping and screaming starts about 6am. They usually leave around 6:30 and its quiet all day but by then I’m up. My sleep is disrupted almost every morning with this. By the time I actually can fall back asleep it’s time to get up for work. I usually work evenings so I am no where near awake at 6 am.
I kept quiet about this for weeks and eventually, I tried talking to her. She apologized but she implied that this happens wherever she lives. The noise kept going. I talked to the landlord and he’s pretty annoyed by her, but the noise doesn’t stop. Now, she doesn’t even answer the door when I try to talk to her. The noise got excessive this morning and I let the landlord know that she woke me up again. After he talked to her I heard her yelling on the phone with someone about how petty I am for complaining. She said that they are kids and that’s what kids do, they make noise and run around. She rambled on and on about me and how she’s a single mother and nobody is helping her and all this and that. She mentioned something about me not understanding because I dont have kids. She doesnt know that I have a four-year-old, SHE’S NEVER HEARD HIM. I understand she is raising two boys by herself and good for her, but that doesn’t excuse them thumping and yelling at early hours.
I’m just really tired of this mess. I refuse to move because of someone else’s children. I’m pregnant and I need my sleep, but my neighbor feels her children are entitled to be loud because they are children. I know I can’t change her thinking, I just want some rest! I already know when this baby arrives I will be a bit sleep deprived. It’s hard enough to sleep with a growing belly. How on earth am I supposed to deal with this neighbor and her kids? Rene, help me please…
Thanks so much,
Sleepless in Chicago
Wow. Wow, oh wow..
There are answers to this, as there are in every situation, but they might not be the ones you want to hear. Years ago, I lived in an apartment building with very thin walls. The couple who lived below me fought constantly; I mean I could hear every word! So I feel your pain on this one. You have a couple of optons and, yes, one of them involves you moving. Here’s what I would do if I were you.