How Can I Get My Relatives To Understand?
I have a 9-year-old son who has Asperger’s Syndrome. Under the umbrella of Asperger’s he also has ADHD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Oppositional Defiance Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I have been a teacher of Early Childhood Education for over 25 years. Labeling children is my forte, yet it took a while to figure my son out.
It was a relief when the diagnosis was made. He has been working hard in therapy on how to handle his anger and social skills. However, my relatives do not understand him and expect him to be like other kids. Whenever there is a family get together, the relatives feel it is their place to reprimand him and usurp my authority. I do not want to cause a scene, however if I ever said anything to their 6-year-old the way they talk to my son, all you know what would break loose.
My son asks me why his grandma, uncle and aunt don’t like him. They tell me I need to “get a handle” on him now or else I will be sorry.
What should I do next time something like this comes up? I am not making excuses for him or his behavior. I have learned through Parent Communication Therapy how to deal with discipline with a child like my son. It is so frustrating I don’t want to go to family get togethers anymore. Thanks for any advice!
Tying a Knot and Hanging On
I think the most heartbreaking part of your letter is that your son believes the people who are supposed to love him, don’t like him because of things that he cannot change or control. So here’s what I would do if I were you.