Motherhood Makes Moguls!
Why Women Don’t Lose Focus After
Baby And Why That Thinking Must Change (VIDEO)
That is the sound of me pulling my hair out after hearing Paul Tudor Jones talking to a group of students and alumni at the University of West Virginia recently.
Jones is a hedge fund billionaire who was quoted as saying,
“As soon as that baby’s lips touched that girl’s bosom, forget it,”
Um, while that may be true (yes, you don’t forget the nursing experience), there are so many, MANY things wrong with this I’m not even sure where to start (maybe calling a woman, “girl”?)
Here’s the clip; watch for yourself.
As nice as that may have sounded, Tudor’s comments have pretty much ricocheted around the ‘net. Why? Because at least half of the population knows it’s bull.
To be fair the article above is Tudor’s explanation of those remarks; he goes on to say he has three daughters who can do anything they put their hearts and minds to, and those remarks were made about a specific profession, macro traders, who are on call 24/7 and require a high degree of focus and skill. “Life events, such as birth, divorce, death of a loved one and other emotional highs and lows are obstacles to success in this specific field of finance,” he goes on to say.
Um, yeah. I still say, “bull.”
(Wait, so is he saying that people who work in finance cannot have babies, get divorced or have someone die? What the…)
This thinking is one of the reasons I wrote Good Enough Mother. Becoming a mother didn’t mean that I, Rene Syler, stopped having dreams and goals and aspirations; I still have them. Becoming a mother made me multi-faceted, not singularly focused on my kids.
One of the things that Paul Tudor Jones and so many others don’t get is that motherhood doesn’t make you LOSE your focus; it makes you more focused, on more things. On a micro-level you focus on your family (whether they are young enough to be on your bosom or old enough to be on your nerves); on a macro level mothers want to make the world a better place. Mothers focus on kids in school, the school itself, the community that supports that school, the county and country and on and on.
You see Mr. Jones? Mothers are masterful multi-taskers. Yes, a job that requires us to be on call at the office 24/7 (oh you mean like motherhood does at home?) might not work when kids are very young, but that doesn’t mean it will never work. My fear is that putting that out there means women will, not only not try, but they won’t be given a chance.
Those comments make me wonder about the corporate culture Jones is fostering; are they hiring women at the top levels? Or are they hesitant to give any type of promotion to someone who could potentially have children and, according to Mr. Jones, lose focus? My guess would be the latter and that sucks.
I’m sure they are missing out on some great talent.
Okay *rant over*
What do you guys think? Is this antiquated thinking or is there truth to this?
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