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Monday Morning Motivation: 
3 BIG Career Lessons From Erica Kane

Okay, okay, not Erica Kane, these are really from the actress who became synonymous with her, Susan Lucci. I’m thinking about her today because of a conversation I had last night with the director on this Sweet Retreats shoot I’m on.  She told me a few years ago, she had the opportunity to be a “seat-filler” at the Daytime Emmy Awards. The Emmy’s are television’s highest honor and actress Susan Lucci had been nominated for her portrayal of Erica Kane almost every year since 1978 (side note: a seat-filler is an extra person who sits in a seat when someone gets up for whatever reason so there are no gaping holes on the high-wide shots on TV. Now you know).

Susan Lucci finally won in 1999.


Do the math on that one.. we’re talking more than 20 years, TWO DECADES before Lucci finally won. If that’s not a model of perseverance, I don’t know what is.



So as you get started on your day, here are three big things to remember, courtesy Erica Kane/Susan Lucci.



That’s the obvious lesson but it’s so much easier said than done. Think about this for a moment; Susan Lucci gets nominated year, after year, after year, after YEAR! Each year, she gets a gown and all dolled up to sit through an evening with her peers, knowing every eye will be on her when the nominees are announced. And year after year, after year, after YEAR she goes home empty-handed. You think that was easy? Of course, not. Think she got discouraged? I’m willing to bet she did. But she knew that she’d really lose if she gave up and conversely, the only way you win was to keep on trying.

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This one right here… speaks to me. Remember a few weeks ago I told you about how important it is to run your own race? I mean that! Our little Good Enough Mother venture, what we affectionately call the GEMpire, is growing by leaps and bounds and the last couple weeks have been crazy with various deals in the works. But you think we started here? Heck no. Where did it start? Making videos and creating content from the only place I could find a little peace and quiet, my walk-in closet.


It was lonely and I was scared back in those days and, truth be told, I wasn’t sure where this little business was going to end up; I sure as heck didn’t know we’d be where we are now. But one thing I did know was that I had to do good work, even if it was just for me, which, in the beginning, it was.

At the end of every day, can you say that about your efforts?

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I did a lot of crying in that closet. I did a lot of crying in the bedroom. I did a lot of crying in the shower. I did a lot of crying in my car. Oh hell, I just did a lot of crying. And it was okay. I was okay. The crying was cathartic and though important (and on a much smaller stage than the Daytime Emmys), I knew I had to get on with it. I had a job to do and I was going to do it well, even if the frustration of it all brought me to my knees at times.

Lock yourself in the bedroom, bathroom, car or wherever and let it all out. Then dry your tears and get back to the business at hand.

Read more: 3 Reasons We Get Discouraged And One Way To Break Through


So that’s it for today; I’m headed out to finish this Sweet Retreats shoot then off to Orlando for a few days where I’m speaking at Disney Social Media Moms (you can click here to read more about the attendees).

I hope this is a short, simple reminder that you don’t get anywhere by giving up.

So don’t.

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