Why Won’t My Mom Support Me?
My mom gets angry very easily. When I get bad grades and do other bad things, all I know is that she is ready to get angry. I’ve tried steering around this by lying, and it works, but I don’t feel this is a healthy relationship. Instead of encouraging me to do things, she gets mad at me for doing them wrong.
And she often doesn’t listen to my ideas. I have been turned down on outfits I want to wear because “the colors clash” and other silly things. I just want to be myself.
Why won’t my mom support me?
Troubled Teen (but not in that way)
Oh bummer, I hate to hear this but maybe I can help, since I’ve been in both your shoes and her shoes. Let me start by telling you what I think might be going on. When we become mothers, the doctor hands us this little, helpless baby and something happens; we become fiercely protective and the love we thought we knew increases exponentially. In other words, our hearts expand larger than we ever thought possible. But once we get past that ooey-gooey feeling of love, we immediately think,
“OMG MY BABY COULD GET HURT OUT THERE!”
And that’s when the protective side kicks in; but sometimes it manifests itself in ways that doesn’t look like protection and instead, just looks mean or irrational. So let me see if I can clear things up. Here’s what I would do if I were you.