The GEM Debate:
How Much Is Too Much To Share Online?
Ah yes, another day, another controversial parenting issue. This one is about a mom, her daughter, her daughter’s diary and what should and should not be talked about online.
So here are the high points: the mother, Kim Bongiorno, has a five-year-old daughter who’d been asking for a diary. She complied by getting her a very special one that the little girl labors over, on and in for a considerable amount of time. She even tells her mother to not look at her as she’s busy writing (this is all detailed in a blog posting on Huffington Post).
“Curiosity got the best of me, and with a heavy, worried heart, I unlocked her diary to see what was inside.
What did I find?
It turns out that her daughter had been writing in her diary about all the things she loves; gold, friends, flowers, all very sweet stuff, right?
Yes, until the knives came out. Bongiorno has been eviscerated by people commenting on her sweet story, saying she was wrong to read her daughter’s diary but even more wrong to publish it online, complete with photos of the pages filled with her kid’s chunky handwriting.
You know something? I agree with most of the indignation, well, the part that has to do with sharing it online.
If my daughter or son had a diary and they were living in my home, I would make it clear to them that, while I respect their privacy, I would look at their diaries if I suspected some bad stuff was happening. And that’s a big IF! That’s different from “curiosity getting the best of me” as Bongiorno cops to.
Now, having said that, I would not, IN CAPS, bolded and underlined, post whatever I found online. Ever. Ever, never, ever.
It’s one thing to offer advice online to those who may be seeking it, even talk about your kid’s sleep or school troubles in broad and general terms. But to, line-by-line, talk about something that is secret, near and dear to them or that has the potential to cause long-term damage were they to find it online, is just all sorts of uncool.
It seems, in this day and age with the ubiquitous nature of social media, parents have forgotten that some things might just be best if taken to a priest or therapist.
Or the grave.
Remember dude who wrote about having a favorite kid. I mean really? How would your son feel if he stumbled upon that little gem while researching a paper in high school? Or God forbid, one of his friends!
The thing we should all remember before posting photos of your cherub naked in a tub or sitting on the potty, is that online content never goes away. Think before you post. If you can answer yes to the question, “Will this embarrass/hurt my child in a few years?” don’t hit the “share” button.
That’s my take, what about you guys? Would you read your kid’s diary? Would you POST it online? How do you feel about parents sharing and over-sharing?
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