Our Story Begins:
Motherless Children (VIDEO)
Those words are apt adjectives in my household, sure. The problem I have is that so many people try to define all five of us by one of those terms.
Abbi, Hannah, Noah and Sam – my four children – are motherless children.
I am a widower.
But that is not all we are. We are so much more than that. So often the discussion comes to “Are you married?” or “Do you help your Mom with Thanksgiving?” and we say, “No, she died two years ago.” The conversation dive-bombs from there. The looks, the sadness, the pity comes gushing out from people who didn’t even know we’ve had these struggles.
March 26th is a dual anniversary. It’s the day I married Andrea Andrews. It’s also the day Andrea Andrews Manoucheri died.
On this, the 2nd anniversary of her death, we make another video. This one is less a celebration of her life and more a celebration of our life.
The song was a deliberate choice. It’s an old blues standard, made famous by Eric Clapton, re-arranged by me, Dave Manoucheri, and performed on a Dobro. We chose it, knowing it’s blunt and a bit angry, because, frankly . . . it speaks perfectly to what we are.
We are a family: a widower and four motherless children. We have a harder time, yes.
But we thrive, as I hope you will see.
So what about you? What more would you add to the definition of who you are or what your family is? Tell us!
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Dave Manoucheri is a writer and journalist based in Sacramento, California. A father of four, two daughters and twin sons, his blog, Our Story Begins is a chronicle of their daily life after the loss of his wife, Andrea, in March of 2011. Follow him on Twitter @InvProducerMan.