Monday Morning Motivation:
Why Is It So Hard For Us To “Lean In”?
(RENE SYLER TV ALERT: Hey guys, I’m going to be on CNN today, around noon EST talking about this very topic so make sure you tune in!)
Hola my peeps!
I’m up early on the West Coast, San Diego to be exact, where I’m prepping to tape another episode of Sweet Retreats this week. Hope you’ve been enjoying watching the show as much as we are making it. It’s a lot of travel but I’m starting to realize some things about myself, which brings me to today’s Monday Morning Motivation.
Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, has just stepped into the maelstrom of what women want with her new book called Lean In; Women, Work, And The Will To Lead. It’s interesting that Monday Morning Motivation would land on this day, which happens to be a pretty special one in the life of Goodenoughmother.com. Let me explain.
A year and a half ago, I took full creative control of Good Enough Mother after working with a producing team for the previous year and a half or so. While the site accomplished some great things working with them, it wasn’t until we parted ways and I jumped into the driver’s seat that it really took off. To what do I attribute that?
Hmm.. A couple of things, I guess.
When I took over control of the site, it went back to being wholly authentic, my voice and my vision, the same one I had when GEM was just a nugget of an idea way back in 2005.
But here’s the biggest thing that happened..
I stared into the face of fear.
Fear is a horrible thing; it’s paralyzing, sucks the joy from our lives (along with our health) and is bad place from which to make decisions.
And I was still there.
See I had left that big gig at CBS (well, more like been ASKED to leave) and I was hurting. Being fired from a job can really do a number on your self-esteem, as anyone who’s been there can attest.
When I relaunched Goodenoughmother.com as a full-fledged website (it had been a blog that I was updating sporadically), I did so as part of a collaborative effort. Subsequently, the pieces weren’t necessarily the ones I would have chosen and, though the words were mine, they were edited. Like much of my career in TV, someone else was in charge. Because I thought I needed that, I did a lot of “going along to get along”, biting my tongue when I should have spoken up and walking on eggshells to keep the peace.
Why? Because even I, stubborn, strong-willed with a vision for my future, was afraid. I worried about being a disappointment and I worried that they’d see me as a “bitchy woman” if I put my foot down on certain issues.
So I didn’t.
And regretted it each time I swallowed my own vision, needs and desires for the site.
That’s ancient history now and Good Enough Mother (the site, the brand, the woman) are doing some great things. We’ve established some great connections with brands and bloggers, all the while staying true to the mission that you don’t have to be perfect to be a great parent.
And when I say we, I mean Ella Rucker and me; it’s great to have a collaboration with someone who truly supports you and your vision while understanding the importance of having one of her own.
So my Lean In moment was about saying “no” to fear, something that while never easy, is always right.
What about you? What keeps you from Leaning In?
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