Joyce Brewer (VIDEO)
Are you happy at the moment?
As much as I hate to admit it, I’m not happy right now. But I’m taking some steps to get my body and mind in their best shape. I started seeing a therapist (again) and I’m making an appointment for my first full physical in five years. I’ve been to my OB/GYN, but I haven’t prioritized time for myself. Our 3-year-old son sees a pediatrician, allergist and ophthalmologist. It’s hard enough keeping up with all of his appointments.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
“Walk away from the loser boyfriend!”
“Your enemies will be your foot stool!”
“Just because you work at McDonald’s doesn’t mean you HAVE to eat there! Your thighs will thank you when you’re 39! “
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I’m owning who I am. Flaws and all. I judge myself and others too much. I’m a pretty uptight person, but I’m working on loosening up.
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I want to embrace the fact that I’m turning 40 and still figuring it out.
I tend to look back on all the great things in the past when I had a successful TV career, my own home and took trips whenever I wanted – and feel inadequate about where I am now. That’s not fair to me, my family or God – who’s put me in this space for a reason.
What’s your secret to happiness?
Wowzers. I’m still looking for it. Although, I see glimpses in my son’s face. When I feel overwhelmed, I’m reminded that all he really wants from me is a hug and to play with him. That’s when I let all the other stress (marriage, career choices, money concerns) go and realize that simple things make me happiest.
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Drinking coffee daily. It may not be healthy, but it calms me and gives me the strength to start my day.
What’s your biggest regret?
My biggest regret is not being prepared when I bumped into Oprah at a Burger King in Mississippi and landed a one-on-one interview. I admit – I was star struck. The first question I asked her didn’t even make sense. Her response was, “Huh? I don’t understand the question.” If I’d been more focused on the what (her effort to bring a Boys & Girls club to her hometown) instead of the who (the most influential woman in media) I could have made a real connection with her.
On the flip side, meeting her BFF (Best Friend Forever) Gayle was a trip. Gayle was so happy that I got the interview. I can see why Oprah keeps her close by. I’d love to have a supportive BFF.
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Prayer. My son prays before every meal wherever we are. We also say bedtime prayers. We teach him that each day is a blessing and that we should thank the Lord for all the loving people who surround us.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Judgment. Regret. Nagging my husband.
Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I’m most proud of the time when I stood up for myself when I was being mistreated at work. TV news is high pressure and I worked around my share of jerks. Being a young, Black woman I encountered a few older men who wanted to walk all over me. Once I set each of them straight – it never happened again.
When were you happiest?
When I was engaged I was walking on cloud nine. I’d found love with one of my best friends and we were starting a new life in Atlanta. Little did I know that three months later I would be pregnant with our honeymoon baby!
What ten words best describe you?
Wife. Mother. Fragile. Tough. Tired. Loving. Blessed. Motivated. Learning. Helpful.
Joyce Brewer is the creator/host of MommyTalkShow.com, a video blog featuring national brands that Atlanta businesses moms will love to talk about. The Emmy award-winning TV journalist walked away from the local TV news anchor desk when she got engaged, married and pregnant all in one year. She is the author of Use What You Know: A Business Idea Guide for Moms, featuring interviews with successful mompreneurs.