How Can I Convince Her That She IS Good Enough?
My heart is breaking and I do hope you can help.
I have a niece who’s in the 8th grade. Up until now, she’s been a model kid – straight A’s, sweet, respectful (most times), just an all around good kid. Lately, something has changed in her.
We’ve always had a great relationship. She’s been able to talk to me when she couldn’t talk to her mom. She came to me in tears last night and told me she didn’t feel like she was good enough to be in the same school with her peers.
She attends public school in an affluent part of our county where she is one of seven African-American students. She’s had some problems with fellow students, girls, being nasty to her, not because she’s black but because she’s “poor.”
It has torn her (and me) apart because this is something I can’t fix for her. How do I drive home that her peers are no better than she is because their parents make more money?
Worried Auntie in Ann Arbor
Hi Worried Auntie:
I’m so sorry your niece is going through this; that sucks. But I think you have an incredible opportunity to help her learn some lifelong lessons. So with the knowledge that the window is opening, there are 4 things I would suggest you do to help your niece.