Say hello to Bee, today’s Life Lessons subject! Bee’s in a pretty good place and wanted to share her experience with us here at Good Enough Mother. More on Bee now (how cool is that name?) and remember, we want to hear from YOU! Drop us a line here if you want to take part; we’ll get the questions right out to you!
Are you happy at the moment?
Overall? Yes. There are a few key areas in my life that need some work, but I’m getting there. I’m loved and in love, I’m healthy, and I have the motivation to fix the things that aren’t so great. Those things make me happy.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Oh gosh – so many things! One major thing is, I’d tell 16-year-old Bee that her quirks and weirdness should be embraced. I’d tell her that instead of looking at it as, “I don’t fit in” to re-frame that statement and say, “I stand out.” 16-year-old Bee needed a dose of confidence back in the day.
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I’ve learned not to waste life. My cousin passed away recently – we were the exact same age, therefore losing him so soon really motivated me to not waste time or settle anymore. Because of him, I’m determined to live life out loud! Shoot – I have to entertain him while he’s up in Heaven!
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I want to figure out how to best make my mark on the world. I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant, and I really thrive when I feel like I’m making a difference. I want to achieve the goal of finding my niche.
What’s your secret to happiness?
The only secret that’s worked for me has been to remind myself that I deserve happiness. On my vision boards, I always put a reminder: “Be your own biggest defender, not just your biggest critic.” I can be very hard on myself, but the reminder that I deserve happiness always brings me back to a good place.
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
This is a pretty recent one, but it’s been very effective for me. I found a relatively unknown Bob Marley song called “Selassie Is The Chapel”, and something about the melody, drums, and lyrics really centers me. I play it first thing in the morning, and usually right before I go to bed. It’s just beautiful and reminds me of the essence of something bigger than myself.
What’s your biggest regret?
No matter how many times I try to answer this by saying “I don’t have any!” I know I’m lying a little bit each time. My biggest regret is back in my high school days. I tried out for the basketball team and the orchestra and got into both. However, I started getting a lot of attention and started feeling a lot of pressure on the ball team. Low-confidence-having Bee felt more comfortable in the back of the orchestra with my violin, so I dropped the ball team. I could have done both, but hid my lack of confidence behind the guise of balancing a busy schedule. I regret it everyday!
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
No kids yet, but I hope to teach them to have healthy self-esteem and confidence. A lack of both leads to a slippery slope of other issues, so I hope to nip that in the bud as best I can from an early age.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I procrastinate WAY too much! I definitely need to rectify that so that I can live a more efficient life.
Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I’m proud of my ability to prove myself wrong. I tend to second-guess myself or panic when certain new situations arise, but I always come out on the other side successfully. I’m always proud of myself when I do things that I didn’t think I could do.
When were you happiest?
The memory that comes to mind most immediately was my wedding day. I felt beautiful, loved, and surrounded by people who wished nothing but the best. I could feel the blessings in the room and honestly felt like I could do ANYTHING at that point. It was almost overwhelming how happy I felt that day.
What ten words best describe you?
Kind. Emotional. Beautiful. Intelligent. Quirky. Proud. Searching. Creative. Positive. Open.
Bee Quammie is a Toronto-based blogger, health fanatic, and lover of all things fly. In 2011, Bee launched ’83 To Infinity, a blog that focuses on life’s various journeys – including natural hair care, health & wellness, career tips, and relationships. ’83 To Infinity’s mission is to empower readers to see that it’s “never too late to learn something new, do something new, or be someone new.” Life is the ultimate teacher, so Bee pulls from personal passions and real-life experiences to connect with her readers.