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What Will Your Kids Say When The Red Light Comes On?

 Ah, yes, a new entry into the “Friends-don’t-let-friends-record-stupid-stuff-on-YouTube” race and this one appears crazier than the other one we talked about a year ago. I stumbled across this one last night and, though difficult, I sat and watched all 13:59 seconds of this drivel. Two girls from Gainesville High School in Florida thought it would be funny to hit record and have a stream of consciousness discussion about minorities (apparently they were answering questions from a previous racist rant). What came out of their mouths was pretty stunning but not as much as the aftermath. More on that in a moment.

Anyway, here is the video. WARNING!! It is EXTREMELY NSFW! There is a lot of cussing and loud talk so if you are at work, put your ear buds in. You have been warned.

The fallout has been swift, with the girls, who only days before were full of misguided bravado, issuing mealy-mouthed apologies, one that read in part:

“I am one of the girls who were in the racist video that got posted. I’m writing this so that I can tell people how truly sorry I am. I could never, in a million years, have pictured this happening with me involved. I wasn’t raised to hate people for their race, and I still don’t. I made a horrible decision in being a part of this video … “

The girls have now withdrawn from school after death threats against them and their families are calling for peace.

 “While we can never take back the words and actions that these two children have said, we have to start to heal and forgive IMMEDIATELY. Stop the violent threats to our homes and our children, stop the anger, because this will solve absolutely nothing, and most importantly, look at yourself for change and love.”

Where am I going with this? I don’t believe there is any way these girls developed this hard edge overnight, nor did they get it from solely going to school with a bunch of black people. I believe they learned that, at least in part, from home. Now whether it was said aloud or phrases were overlooked, I don’t know. But for the parents to feign shock and surprise, just doesn’t fit.

You see, we have a job to do and it is a big one. When we hear inappropriate things come from our kids, we have to STOP what we are doing, sit them down and explain WHY that cannot be tolerated. The first time I heard on of my kids say, “That’s so gay” I jumped in and let then know we do not condone using the term as a pejorative. This is an action that starts early and is repeated often. That’s our job. I’m not saying the parents of these girls are racist but does it not make you wonder where they were all of this time?

Okay, maybe it is just me, so let me hear from you. Do you think it’s possible that this kind of talk could come from these girls and their parents NOT know about it? Could it truly have been a “complete surprise” to them? What would your kids say when the red light comes on?

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4 Comments

  1. DawnKA

    February 22, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    I’m from the belief of saying what you mean to say. Nothing irritates me more when someone flushes out their system expressing their point of view only to return with an apology. The apology of saying that you did not mean that or you have no idea where that came from is such a blatant lie – it’s even more insulting. Often people say what they mean to say and although they may regret saying it – it came straight from within. Clearly the apology is meant to brush over the reality of the expressed sentiments and is a result of the reaction that follows.

  2. m.e. johnson

    February 22, 2012 at 11:12 pm

    Well Rene, young people that age do act on things they didn’t learn at home. I go with Dawn. “I didn’t mean it” is right up there with a murderer saying “I’m sorry”. He wasn’t sorry yesterday. He’s sorry he got caught. To me, “I didn’t mean it” means “I didn’t mean to say it.” Then there are people like my mom who say something hurtful, then say they were just joking. No, they were not joking.

    I like when people say those things. I like knowing who they really are.

  3. Stephanie

    February 23, 2012 at 1:11 am

    I pray for all our kids because they live with and around so much hate. It’s a shame. Did they learn it at home?Yep some of it, but it is also the buzz humming loudly in the background everywhere, and kids can and do watch the unfair and unbalanced news get the message and in their young naive way make the message their own. Somebody told them this was okay, and they believed them. They also knew that posting on Youtube would get them the attention they so desperately need. Of course now they are sorry. Too bad they couldn’t stand the heat and stay at school, the teachable moment would be to make them lie in the bed they made and maybe grow up.

  4. Dave Freeman

    February 24, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    The parents claimed surprize at this video. And maybe they were. I certainly learned more about sex, hate, etc. from other kids at school than I did at home. I didn’t go along with it because of what I WAS taught at home though. If anything, I don’t know if the parents taught this hate, but yeah, they certainly didn’t teach them to NOT listen to this ignorance at school. And sure, there are more and more two working parents (or one parent period) homes than ever before. It is tempting to want to be the nice parent when you feel guilty about not being home enough or for a plethora of other reasons. but parenting is not about your kid always being happy with you. If nothing else, this could ruin these kids future careers if it follows them.
    On the other hand I must say the parents did a decent job with self esteem of the main kid. (The other one was following her lead. Happy to be hanging out with the “prettier more popular girl”? Do things still work that way?) Not unlike the kids who post the “Am I ugly” videos, these kids need to somehow learn that what they post on the internet is “a forever thing”. It’s a tough thing to get through and to teach tolerance, thats another lesson that needs CONSISTENCY. That word is what I see most lacking in the kids with major issues who touch my life.

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