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Ask Rene: I Hate My Life! (VIDEO)

Hi Rene:

I’m a faithful reader of Good Enough Mother, even though I’m not a mother, in fact, quite a way from it. And the way things are going, I’m not sure that will happen, at least not in my current situation.

I’m 25 and live with my boyfriend. He works in a cell phone store and seems happy having a job that just pays the bills. I work in an office with a bunch of older women, as an administrative assistant. And I hate it. They’re all a bunch of backstabbing bitches and I literally get sick when I think about having to go to work there.

I know I can do more with my life and need to, but I just feel stuck. The thought of being with my boyfriend and this dead-end job is almost too much to take.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Miserable in Maryland

Hi Miserable:

Well the good news is you’re young and full of piss and vinegar (that’s a compliment) so making a change shouldn’t be too difficult, but you need a road map. So, here’s my video response to your question.. and good luck to you!


  1. Janet

    February 21, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    Rene has great advice! I think I was probably right where you were when I was 25. I hated my job and was surrounded by many backstabbers (both male & female!) and my boyfriend was out of work. I truly never thought that I would like my job, have enough money or just feel rewarded. About 10 years ago when I went through this it was called a Quarter Life Crisis and there were all sorts of books and things about it. It’s a natural part of life. There’s a big “Huh? Is this all there is?” to adult life and you start realizing how dang hard it all is.

    But make one change to your life in your favor. The job is probably the best one but in this economy maybe just finding a volunteer group is easier. It will turn around and you will find your way. 10 years later I can’t say that I 100% love love love my job but I like the industry I’m in, am married and have a child. And there will always be backstabbers at work – jobs are just kind of political that way – but you’ll get some good coping skills and confidence when dealing with them as time goes on. Good luck! Nothing is insurmountable.

  2. Dawn B

    February 23, 2012 at 9:44 am

    Rene has covered it all for you MIM. At 25, you have lots of time to make some changes and get on your right path. Kudos to you for realizing at your age that there IS more out there for you, The boyfriend situation is definitely something you can change. Work on you first and if he is not willing to step up his game to keep up with you, maybe you need to move on from him as well. Good luck!! And Rene…I hope one of the things you are working on is getting your own show or a regular spot on someone else’s show…you give spot on advice!!! I love ya girl!!

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