Are you happy at the moment?
In one word, I would say yes. This year has had its ups and downs, but I’m surrounded by loved ones and that’s what matters to me.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16 year old self now – what would it be?
“Get off your damn high horse!” Looking back now, I was such a typical teenager. I thought I knew everything and ruled the world. I wish I’d wised up before the world decided to smack me back into line.
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
If it takes me away from my family, it isn’t worth my time. I had a job that was asking more and more of me each week, and before I knew it I was only seeing my family an hour a night, and we were all suffering from it.
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I want to find a job that allows me to bring an income into our household while still allowing me to have time with my family. I’m currently exploring different avenues, and am praying that I find the one that works best with my goals.
What’s your secret to happiness?
Yarn. It sounds really silly, but crocheting or knitting is relaxing for me, and after a few hours of burning off some frustrated energy, I have a great gift ready for a loved one. And the look on their face when they receive said gift makes me feel great inside, so all in all it’s a win.
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
I can’t name one. I tried. I have two. Yoga, because afterward I feel more relaxed and like I can take on the world, and spending time with my family. As a society we over book ourselves so much that to keep up with everything we’re passing ourselves as we go through the door, because of this I love to take time and just sit. What we’re doing doesn’t matter, as long as we’re together and it’s not in the van as we run to the next errand or play date.
What’s your biggest regret?
My 18th year. Yeah, the whole year, pretty much. The only good thing that happened that year was that I met my husband. Other than that, I went into college with an attitude and ended up flunking out; I had to tell my parents about my failures. I just regret all the stupid mistakes I made that year.
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
You know that phrase that goes “Do unto others as you would have done unto you”? That’s the most important lesson I want to instill in my son. We get what we give, and we should always give 100%.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Oh, boy. I think I have a bad habit of not standing up for myself. Being nice doesn’t mean I can’t say no, or that I can’t tell someone to sod off if they’re using me as a doormat, and while I talk that talk, I don’t seem to walk that walk. So my goal is to realize its okay to say no.
Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
That I’ve gone back to school. After the failure that I’ve coined “my 18th year” (see above) I sort of floundered, but I’m back in school now and I’m working toward a future for myself.
When were you happiest?
This year? I was the most happiest the day I quit my job. I was stressing out so badly I had been sent to the hospital because of panic attacks. When I submitted my resignation I felt like the weight of the world was lifted from my shoulders, and that was the happiest moment for me. I felt like I could be a mother to my son and a wife to my husband again.
What ten words best describe you?
Ten words that best describe me? Kind, loyal, stubborn, kooky, scatterbrained, creative, classy, honest (to a fault), goal-oriented, and gullible. Sure, not all of those are positive, but they’re truthful. Really, I still look up if someone says “gullible is written on the ceiling.”
Amanda Drogos was born in Green Bay, Wisconsin and now lives in Romeoville, Illinois. She and her husband have one son. Amanda loves to crochet or write when she has the time. She’s a diehard Packer fan and during football season hibernates on Sundays in her home. A stay at home mom and full-time student, she studies between loads of laundry, dishes, and shouting at the TV on game day.