In the Life Lessons Hot Seat today, Jeffrey Broadnax. A devoted husband and man of deep faith, I am pleased to be able to call him friend, even if it’s on Facebook. Listen to what’s he’s learned over the years and remember if you want to take part in our little exercise, drop us a line.
Are you happy at the moment?
Yes I am overall. There are unfulfilled dreams that I struggle with and struggle towards but I consider myself to be quite blessed.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Jeff, you need quickly learn the difference between dependence, independence and interdependence. There will be times to learn from and even rely on conventional wisdom and those in authority (dependence) and there also be a times to appropriately and respectfully challenge conventional wisdom and authority because something inside doesn’t feel right (independence). But don’t get caught in either/or thinking. You will need to be confident enough to risk bringing your own understanding to the table to add the process work along side those in authority knowing you have something to add (interdependence). As long as you can defend your belief, do so but once you can’t – Stop!
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
Marianne Williamson’s poem “Our Deepest Fear” applies directly to me and I can no longer live afraid.
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
It is time to write my first of 10 Best-Selling books.
What’s your secret to happiness?
Believing I am a loved child of God and knowing that nothing touches my life unless it has first been sifted through His fingers.
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Spend time talking to and listening for God.
What’s your biggest regret?
Holding myself back from dreaming big or taking risks with the dreams I did have because of insecurity and lack of appreciation of the true value of my gift mix/skill set.
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Don’t be afraid to take defensible risks. Not taking risks could lead to a slightly above average existence but God’s plan for them is to bring something to the world that “only they are meant to bring” AND you must go farther than your mother and me.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I spend too much time absorbing information and not enough time actively using it.
Aside from fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
In general, people see me as a blessing to their lives. If I were to die, my children would have nothing about their father to be ashamed of.
When were you happiest?
When I can see what God is using me to do or teaching me.
What ten words best describe you?
Loving, Faithful, Passionate, Peaceful, Entrepreneurial, Understanding, Influencer, Educated, Honorable, Motivating
Jeffrey Broadnax, M.S. NCC, has been married to his amazing wife, Karen, for 25 years and together they have four children, Jasmine (20), Kristen (deceased), Kyle (13) and Kassidy (3). Jeff’s primary vocation has been Pastoral ministry for 25 years but during that time he has been a motivational speaker, youth camp director and corporate consultant. He has a Master’s degree in Counseling and spent 10 years working with at risk and incarcerated youth and adults teaching the power of rediscovery, entrepreneurship and living versus existing.