Well, how about a big Good Enough Mother salute (use your imagination) to the fine legislators of Topeka Kansas, who, due to a budget shortfall, have come up with this grand idea; not prosecuting misdemeanors, including domestic violence, in order to add $200,000 to county coffers.  Way.To. Go. This proposal is made all the more special by the fact that October, along with being Breast Cancer Awareness Month, is also Domestic Violence Month. Way.To.Go. Oh, I already said that.

Look, I don’t live in Topeka so I don’t know what kind of fiscal pressure officials are under, though I can imagine it’s similar to that of the rest of the country. But I do know what it’s like to be involved with a man you fear will hurt you. I’d pay more in other county or city services if it meant keeping victims safe; I’ll bet there are a lot of folks in Topeka who feel the same way.

According to Topeka Mayor Bill Bunten, it’s not that they don’t take domestic violence seriously, it’s just a matter of figuring out whether it’s the city of the county that will pay for the prosecution. But while officials are passing paper, the buck and blame, Shawnee county has turned away almost three dozen cases and booked, then released more than a dozen more, after charges were not filed. The District Attorney’s office is quick to point out that it takes domestic violence very seriously but if actions speak louder than words, it sure doesn’t seem like it.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence says nearly a quarter of women will experience domestic violence at some point in their lives. We know the effects are far reaching, leaving marks that can’t be seen, not just on the victim but children as well. Is this the message to send to our children? Should our sons learn it’s bad to hit women but they’ll get away with it when money’s tight? Should our daughters know they’re only safe when the county’s operating in the black?

If you’d like to let Topeka Mayor Bill Bunten know how you feel about this, drop him a line here and if you’d like to make a donation to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, click here; I’m sure it would be appreciated by the nearly 24,000 victims of domestic violence in Topeka and the thousands around the country.

Come on Topeka, you gotta do better. A whole, lot better.

What do you think of Topeka’s quest to save money by not prosecuting domestic violence? Have you ever been a victim yourself? What did you do?