To be honest, I’m not even sure where to start this post really. I guess the best way is just to say that sometimes while you’re searching for your life’s work, it finds you. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still not clear, certain or guaranteed where I’m headed, and I don’t know where the road ends really. What I do know is I am headed in the right direction.
I would say the first, real clue came back in March when I took all of the stuff I had been through over the past five years and put it together in a speech that I gave at Disney Social Media Moms. Those women, roughly 200 of them, live blogged and tweeted my speech so much that they made me the number 5 trending topic on Twitter! I built on some of those same themes this past weekend at She Streams where I was honored to be asked to be one of the keynote speakers. It was exhilarating! I had a chance to speak (again) to all of these smart, savvy women I follow online. And just like Disney Social Media Moms, I was amazed at how they are taking their power and building empires! It was an incredible learning experience for me and I soaked up as much information as I could.
I also hung out with some cool women, who like me, had turned their backs on traditional TV in an effort to better reach their audience. Joyce Brewer of MommyTalkShow.com talked to me about life after news.
But don’t you see? There’s power in your platform, whatever that may be. Is the rebuild scary? Of course it is. But whenever I leave an event like this, I am buoyed by the knowledge that I am building something. I didn’t wait for someone to give it to me and it’s one nobody can take from me without a check worth an obscene amount of money.
Those who know me know I have a heart; yes, it is tiny, cold and black but it’s there nonetheless. The real reason I started this, the reason I wrote the book and what I try to do daily with the website, is empower women to feel good about the job they are doing as wives and mothers; to know that they don’t have to be perfect to be great parents.
For a long while I felt like I was just screaming into the wilderness, like maybe my ideas weren’t so good, my approach not so novel. Then I got an email from Kim Grenon (@Mommycosm on Twitter), one of the cool women I met at the conference. I am not ashamed or embarrassed to say, it made me cry. It read in part:
Had a thought about you. You used to be seen by millions of eyeballs and heard by millions of ears. Your audience is obviously smaller now, but you have the unique gift of reaching inside hearts and inspiring people to tap into their often ignored souls. You leave an indelible hand print on everyone who hears you speak. So, even if you are doing that 1, 100, 200, 1000 people at a time, it has a powerful ripple effect. I still think you’re reaching millions, just via a less measurable and more meaningful route. I, for one, am glad you are on this path instead of that of CBS or another major network, because I never would have met you… and that would have been a damn shame;)
Wow. Kim put into words what I have been hoping Good Enough Mother would be, a chance for me to communicate the message of imperfection in a meaningful way to women who needed to hear it when it was convenient to them. I guess I’m on my way. But more than that, she and all the people at She Streams, Disney Social Media Moms and those of you who read and comment on the site continue to show me, in ways large and small, that THIS, is my life’s work. Thank you.
Are you doing your life’s work? If not, why not? What do you think it is supposed to be? And if Not what’s holding you back?