Ohboyohboyohboyohboyohboy it’s times like this I’m glad Buff doesn’t read Good Enough Mother. I found a very interesting piece today on a couple that decided to take a break from each other in order to save their marriage. After three decades of marriage, their relationship had become, as the husband described, “almost toxic” and they knew they were going to have to take drastic action. What they came up with was taking time apart. Take a peek:
I don’t think this is such a bad idea. I think sometimes in a marriage between raising kids, maintaining a household, job and health challenges, the intensity can be overwhelming. I am not proud to admit this, but in the case of Buff and me, like a lot of couples and without meaning to, sometimes we take each other for granted. They’re always there, you know how they’ll respond, you know how they’ll react.
What better way to recapture some of the “new”, you know, the whole, “absence makes the heart grow fonder” thing? Now before you all chime in with “but too much absence makes it wander”, as the therapist in the piece said, the ground rules have to be clear. Both people need to be in therapy and view this as a time to work on themselves before returning to the relationship, not as a time to party like a student on spring break. We talked about something like this once before but not taking it to this extent.
So let’s debate. If your marriage is in trouble, do you think taking time off from it can save it? Do you think both people could benefit from it or should the problems be solved while under the same roof? Have you ever done this or contemplated this before? Okay let’s debate!