Good Enough Mother needs your help as I’m pretty much batting a thousand here. I’m beginning to think the people who know me in my personal life are worried I’m raising my kids like a pack of feral cats.

First the orthodontist who, twice now, has had to rebuild Cole’s mouth during what should have been routine check-ups.

Then last night, I got an email from Casey’s music teacher. Apparently during the session she broke down and started crying. When the teacher asked her why, Casey mentioned she is under a lot of pressure at school surrounding a particular project (how did I not know this? Not the project but the pressure).

So when she got home, I pulled Casey into GEM World Headquarters to find out what was up. Turns out it’s a group project with three other students. But Casey and one other kid are doing the lion’s share of the work while the other two are farting around. They will be graded as a group.

Now, here’s why I’m coming to the GEM community. I love my baby girl with all my heart. She’s really an introspective, shy child who would rather go along (and do all the work for someone else) than make waves, the polar opposite of her brother (oh and me, I suppose).  So last night I told her she had two choices. She either had to speak to the student slackers or to the teacher and that if she did not, I was going to. Before bed I gave her a big hug and told her it was going to be okay.

So today, it’s not a debate so much as a question. Have you ever been in this situation with your child? What did you do? Did your child eventually stand up for themselves? Any and all advice welcome!