Wow, did I ever see myself in this piece on

The writer, an educated, accomplished, middle-aged woman who writes financial pieces for various publications (including the New York Times) details how her financial life was upended when she got divorced. Now I just celebrated 17 years of marriage and really do believe we’re in it to win it. This writer probably thought that too.

Those of you who know me know I checked out of all things math related back in the 6th grade; to this day, I’m still very uneasy talking about or handling money, unless it’s spending like a drunken sailor on shore leave. My fear of number-related things is legendary around here, so much so that even Casey and Cole know questions about math homework have to wait until dad gets home.  Maybe that’s why I get so puffed up and proud when I see Casey bringing home A’s in math and science. It may be too late for me, jaded by an awful start, but not for my daughter who is already way beyond the level I got to.

Does it make me uncomfortable to know so little about my financial life? I never really thought about it. Like the writer, I’m busy on other fronts, raising kids, my career, volunteering, trying to make the world a better place in what little way I can. I don’t mind delegating that responsibility to Buff; after all he enjoys it and is good at it. We all have our strengths and that ain’t mine. But it probably wouldn’t hurt to check in say once a quarter and make sure we’re not on the way to the poorhouse.

But what about you? Do you have a handle on your financial life? Not the daily or weekly bills so much as the big picture stuff? And have you made any financial mistakes over the years you now deeply regret…

Let’s get the debate going everyone!