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The GEM Debate – How Much Sex Is Enough?

Hi everyone!
Our last GEM debate over the weekend concerning the Tragedy In Tuscon was heavy stuff – and elicited quite a strong reaction – so today we’re going for a bit of a lighter discussion.

This morning Good Enough Mother ran smack dab into Dr. Oz – I was going into the Good Day New York studio just as he was leaving. Dr. Oz is a busy guy; he’s got his syndicated show, he’s undertaking a weight loss initiative but it was something he said the other day on Extra’s Life Changers that really piqued my interest. Dr. Oz says in this country, we are suffering from a sexual famine! Yep, he went THERE!

Dr. Oz maintains that if we lack physical intimacy in our lives, it impedes out ability to be intimate with people in other ways. So do you agree? Do we all need to loosen up a bit and start getting more intimate with our other halves? Or are we as a society already over-sexualized!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on sex in relationships. When does the sex start to slow down? And how much sex do you think is ‘enough’? Three times a week, once a week, once a month – or less… and are we in the middle of a Sexual Famine?

You know this is a judgment free zone here – so start commenting away!


  1. Mia

    January 10, 2011 at 9:07 pm

    Shocked there are no comments yet. I think people may be suffering from a Sex Famine and don’t even care. I refuse to fall into that category. We make time to get it in at a absolute minimum once a week , most of the time it is 2-3 times a week no matter what, unless we are apart due to travel or you know that other thing that we women experience monthly. That’s not my cup of tea, but to each his/her own.

    You have to make it a priority. You can have comfort sex, quicky sex and hanging from the chandeliers screaming to the top of you lungs sex, but have some sex if you are married. I have so many friends who are married that tell me they haven’t had sex in a year or more, I can’t even imagine.

    Sex is a way, a very important way to keep intimacy and passion in the relationship, relieve stress and just be close. I think people forget that. We haven’t and I encourage you not to. If you have, bring it back into your relationship, it’s not to late.

  2. Rene Syler

    January 10, 2011 at 11:40 pm

    You are the winner! The only one to comment! I suspect you are right, that people just fall into ruts and before they know it, they have grown apart. Good for you for making it a priority.

  3. Nikki

    January 12, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    There are so many variables that go into how much sex couples have regularly. We both need to be alert at our jobs, we have three kids(1 is a teenager, who mentally drains me) and as much as I’m attracted to my spouse, sometimes I’m just tired, but I’ll agree to a minimum of once a week. The big O once a week helps to keep me calm, happy and keep my blood pressure down(literally) I used to have some hypertension issues, but no more. This is my 1st day on the sight. I love it.

  4. Rene Syler

    January 12, 2011 at 12:43 pm

    Hey Nikki: Welcome! Glad you like it and thanks for weighing in. You make some good points about sex being good for physical as well as mental and emotional health. Please come back; we look forward to hearing from you again!

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