Oh, yeah, today’s GEM Debate is right up my alley!
This morning I found this interesting piece on The Huffington Post titled Why Forgiveness is Overrated. The author is a divorced woman whose husband left her for another woman. In the piece she questions the long held concept that forgiveness is always the best policy.
I can certainly identify… When I was fired from my job on the CBS morning show, it came exactly 30 days from my scheduled, preventive double mastectomy. I was given the proverbial “We’re going in another direction” explanation and that was cool. But it didn’t change the fact that I had told them a few months in advance that I was having what would be a life-altering surgery. Being fired added more stress to an already stressful time. Add to that, my agent of 15 years stopped returning my calls and rebuffed my efforts to reach out.
I know what we SHOULD do; I know what I teach my children and what I was taught myself. I know what Christians believe and agree with the famous saying that ‘holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die’.
But I also know me. I’m going to be a big person here and say, it takes some time for me to forgive. A long, long time. I have to process the hurt before I can really let it go and to be honest, I’m not sure if I am ever really free of it all.
There. I told you my truth. But what do you think?
Look deep inside yourself before you answer today’s GEM debate question and tell us – do you think forgiveness is REALLY necessary?
I’d love to know who betrayed your trust – and how you dealt with the pain and anger…
Okay, have at it!