It’s the final TEN FROM GEM for 2010 – and what else could we talk about than New Year’s Resolutions!
I was with Casey the other day and over a slice at the local pizza joint we actually got to talking about New Year’s resolutions. Casey is 14 and even though we talk about eating healthier, we’re not so good in practice. So her resolution is to try to eat healthier and she laid down some ground rules. Then she looked at me and in the way that strikes fear into the hearts of Good Enough Mothers everywhere, she asked “ What about you mom?”
Oh boy, now here’s the thing about me, I’m not real big on resolutions. Resolutions are habits and habits take a while to incorporate into a routine. It’s not that I’m lazy it’s just that the new wears off mighty fast. But okay, for the sake of Casey, I decided to make these resolutions a TEN FROM GEM: Here they are – in no particular order.
MAKE BETTER FOOD/EXERCISE CHOICES: Okay what list of New Year’s resolutions is complete without this one? But as I get older I am becoming less of a fan of the extreme approach. That’s right in line with the Angry Trainer’s thinking too. So I am going to plan to exercise more days than not (between 4 and 6 days a week) and just pay more attention to what goes in my mouth. By my count I am going on year two of being 10 pounds over my ideal weight. This year that comes off.
BE MORE PATIENT: Okay let me just be really real with you; I don’t hold out much hope for this one. Hey, I’m just being truthful. I was born early, was an antsy kid who grew into a high-strung adult. Zen just ain’t my thing. But I would like to think that I have some control over that. I’ll put it down as a resolution anyway.
YELL LESS: Of for crying out loud let’s be real, this is right up there with me winning the Nobel Prize for medicine. But it’s still a real goal. I don’t want Casey and Cole to see me as some ogre who lost her shit every time things went wrong. I guess I’d like to be more easy-going, a direct off-shoot of the above.
DRINK LESS WINE: Hahaha I wanted to see if you were paying attention. Of course this is NOT one of my resolutions.
READ MORE: I’m embarrassed to admit that I picked up fewer books than I have fingers, on one hand in 2010. That’s pathetic and I have no excuse. Time just flies by in the evening and I end up playing on the Great Time Waster, known as Facebook or the even Greater Time Waster, cable television. The problem is neither of those is expanding my mind. I want to change that.
BE A BETTER STEWARD OF MONEY: Oh sweet mercy I am the worst! I gave up on math back in Ms. Cunningham’s 6th grade class when I started having to stay after school to learn that cursed long division. It’s been downhill ever since, frankly. But the thing that sort of worries me is my grasp of the concepts (or lack thereof) has not taught me to respect money and what I spend it on. Luckily I am married to a man who does but I still need to learn.
TAKE ONE-ON-ONE TRIPS WITH MY KIDS: I did this a few weeks ago with Casey and Cole has been asking me to take him somewhere. I love it because, even though it’s the same kid, when the other is gone, the dynamic changes. For that short time, Casey and I became travel buddies, instead of mother daughter and we created memories she will never forget (like walking through the wacky tunnel at the Detroit airport). Neither will I.
SPEND MORE TIME WITH MY HUSBAND: I miss my hubby. Years ago we used to try to get a way a couple of times a year, just he and I. He’s such a great man and actually a lot of fun when he doesn’t have the weight of the world sucking the joy out of his life. I long for those alone times with him where we get a chance to go over our hopes and dreams again and talk about anything but the kids. I would like to have at least one of those this year.
GROW GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER: My dream is actually not as it as when I started GEM five years ago; I want women to know they are not alone, that perfection is completely unattainable and good enough is just perfect. I would like to eventually expand my brand from online to broadcast, either radio or TV or maybe both.
BE HAPPY: I will try in this New Year to live more in the moment and learn how to take stock of where I am and from where I have come. I’m currently not great at that; I want it all and I want it yesterday. But life is like baseball, you can compile a decent record by hitting a series of singles, you don’t have to hit it out of the park every at bat. I want to remember that especially as the work gets harder and somewhat tedious. I will strive to be happy where I am.
What about you? What are you TEN resolutions for the New Year? ‘Fess up!