Are you happy at the moment?
At the moment I am very happy. I have a great husband and great children. We (my husband and I) have come a long way together, it’s a great feeling and a great place to be.
If you could go back and say anything to your 16 year old self now – what would it be?
You are worth more than what you think you are. Don’t let this person influence and trick you. He’s bad for you and in the long run he won’t be worth all that you are willing to give up. Enjoy your life now, be a teen, go hang out with your friends and make education a priority! Step out on faith and go ahead and go for the things you feel like you just can’t do! You can do it, you really can!
What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I learned that my relationship with God is more important than any other relationship that I could have. I also learned that not everyone can be the friend to you that you are to them and its okay to not harp on that. If you are okay with yourself then you know that the problem is not you, but them. I learned to no longer be offended by this!
What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I really want to get down to my goal weight. I have struggled with weight issues for a long time. I’m just ready to be about me for awhile and just do it!!! I also want to walk across the stage to receive my Bachelor’s Degree with my family sitting in the audience cheering me on.
What’s your secret to happiness?
Laughter and true honest to goodness love in my heart! Knowing that God has a hand in this thing that I call life is a great feeling. Plan and simple!
What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Praying to God every day and every night! Just knowing that I can depend on something and someone higher than myself gives me the strength, courage and boldness to make it through each and every day!
What’s your biggest regret?
Wow! I thought that I had a huge regret but things in my life happened (I know now) for a reason. If those things wouldn’t have happened I wouldn’t be where I am today. So as much as I would like to bring up some old stuff that I think I regret, I won’t because I’m over it.
What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
I told my children that no matter what is happening in the world, you have to always be able to look in the mirror and love yourself, love what you see. I have told them that people will try to make them feel bad about themselves one way or another but self love will be a tool that they need in all things in life.
What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
First I need to learn how to feel more confident in myself that I can be in new situations and environments without feeling overwhelmed. Not sure that this is a bad habit but lack of self-confidence sometimes is a hard thing to deal with. I would also like to change being so inconsistent and lazy at times. Sometimes I will be so lazy and it just frustrates me sometimes that I just can’t seem to motivate myself to get moving.
Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I am proud that I have been able to rise above one of the worst situations in my life. I could’ve let it take me under but I found strength that I didn’t know I had and here I am a much stronger person. Being in a relationship where someone just treats you so badly (physically, verbally and emotionally) that you lose who you are, is such a hard black hole to come out of, but I did it! I’m proud of that!!
When were you happiest?
I am happiest when I am surrounded by laughter, happiness and joy. Most times that comes when I am around my family and true friends!
What ten words best describe you?
I’m loving, great friend, great wife, and great mother, funny, silly, serious, great listener, honest and unselfish.
Pamela Latham is a veteran of the U.S. Army currently living in Michigan. She has two children and a husband in the Army.