It is with outstretched arms and heart in hand, that Good Enough Mother extends a cyber hug for every breast cancer survivor who wrote for us in October, sharing the pain, hardship, even celebration of being diagnosed with and triumphing over breast cancer! I know they were not easy stories to tell, not fun to relive the first time you heard those words “You have cancer.” But because of you, so many women have been educated, know the questions to ask, the risk factors and above all, they have hope.
As we leave October behind I think it’s important to remember that breast cancer never takes a break; it is not something that we talk about in October and then put away until next autumn. Nope, breast cancer is alive and kicking, 24 and 7 until we beat it into the ground. It starts by knowing the risk factors.
- Being a woman and getting older, the biggest rick factors of all!
- Having a family history
- Having BRCA1 or BRCA 2 (the breast cancer genes)
- Having had breast cancer (increased risk of recurrence)
- Being overweight or obese
- Not being physically active
These are just a few, but everyone needs to know his or her own family history and actually talk about cancer. As I often say, you shouldn’t be afraid of KNOWING you have cancer, you should be afraid of NOT knowing. Here’s a couple of clips from a recent breast cancer speech I made earlier in the month… (don’t forget if you’d like to book me for YOUR event just click on our How To Book Rene button!)
While I talk a lot about breast cancer, you, as busy wives, mothers, women understand all too well that we are quick to put ourselves at the bottom of a long to-do list. That has to stop. When was the last time you scheduled a physical for yourself? Are you carrying around too much weight? When was the last time you went to the dentist? When was the last time you saw the “girly doctor”? You see it does us no good at all to take care of everyone else, while running ourselves into the ground. Is it important for you to see your kids graduate from high school? To mend their first broken heart? To be there to celebrate the joys of marriage and their mother/fatherhood? Then dammit, you’d better start by taking care of you.
So if you love your family, then love yourself enough to make those appointments. And if you love them, learn that spending time away, recharging your batteries is actually a gift for them. They’ll do just fine for an afternoon or weekend without you and all the stuff you left behind will be there when you get back.
Be well, live well, mommy!