Good Enough Mother here with a fun new strand we’re introducing on the site – the Life Lessons Q&A!
As you may have seen I occasionally post under the heading LIFE LESSONS on the site and try and share some of the valuable (though often painful) truths I’ve learned over the years. I’ve recently talked about Surrounding Yourself With The Right People and how Real Growth Hurts… but now I want to hear from YOU!
One of the purposes of Good Enough Mother is for the site to become a community where we can all learn from one another – and share advice. I don’t have all the answers and I’d certainly never pretend to. Like us all, I’m a work in progress, constantly learning as I go along, and I’m always on the hunt for new ways of doing things, tips and advice and what the great Oprah calls those ‘aha’ moments! And I think you all out there have some great thoughts, advice and lessons to share…
So here’s how it’s gonna work…
Below are 12 questions we’ve put together. I’m kicking the strand off with MY answers – but after this I want to hear from you! So if you’d like to take part in this stand and share your thoughts just email us -firstname.lastname@example.org, mark your email LIFE LESSONS – and my guys will get you going by sending you the questions and some style guidelines… (please DON’T just email us your answers to the questions below)
Please do take part – I think this is going to be a lot of fun and a great learning experience for us all!
So here’s what I think…
*Are you happy at the moment?
On the whole, yes. I have been through some pretty ugly times and lost perspective a bit but I think I am on the way back now. There are days I wake up and feel like I am literally on top of the world. Then there are those days where I feel like I have so far to go still and not much time with which to get there. But if I had to give a one-word answer to this question, it would be yes.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Enjoy that clear skin and perky boobs while you can. Kidding. Sort of. In all seriousness I guess I would say (and I know this is a cliché but it’s true, which is why it is a cliché) life is a journey so enjoy the ride. And don’t be in such a hurry to get there, wherever that is. I remember as a young woman in my early 20’s all I could think about was landing that first TV job, and then when I did that it was landing the second job. I used to see all these classified ads and they would say “must have 5 years of experience” and I would think wow, I can’t WAIT until I have five years of experience under my belt. Well, now I have more than 20 and I’m not really sure where that time went in part because I was so busy focusing on the goal I didn’t enjoy the ride. BTW, when I say enjoy the ride I mean the good, the bad and the ugly!
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
Oh hell, I don’t know, who wrote these questions anyway? Okay, well there definitely isn’t just one lesson I’ve learned this year. I guess I would say I learned to be self-reliant. For so long I was waiting; waiting for circumstances to change, waiting for my agent to get a clue and call me, waiting for someone to realize they couldn’t do their TV show without me. Guess what? That never happened. Then I realized it was time to MAKE something happen. We revamped Good Enough Mother and the rest as they say, is history. I think patience was another lesson. I learned about brand building and that I was ultimately in control of my own destiny.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
Okay look, would it be bad to say I want to be filthy, stinking rich? I don’t mean comfortable and be able to buy what I want when I want I, I mean, 100 dollar bills falling out of my pockets and me not even turning around to pick them up! In the absence of that, I would settle for getting back on TV in a role that fits my personal brand and really helps women to achieve some semblance of balance in their lives.
And become rich in the process.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Wine. Copious amounts of wine. Served in the biggest glass I can find in the kitchen. Oh, okay, seriously I think the secret to happiness is maintaining realistic expectations and reveling in life’s little victories.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Being with my family. As much as they drive me batshit, I love them, I love them, I love them. I get giddy when I talk about vacations with them, I love spending one on one time with the kids, I love watching them grow and mature, I love Friday evenings with pizza and TV with my family, I love playing blackjack with them (yes, I taught my kids how to gamble). In short, I love the mundane aspects of my life with my family.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I don’t have a single one. That is the truth. Maybe there’s a big hairy one waiting to reveal itself in the future, but it hasn’t happened yet.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
I guess the most important lesson I have taught them, and it would be inadvertently as they observed it in me ,would be resiliency.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Hmm, nothing – I am perfect. Okay, now that you have stopped laughing, I think I would say I really need to learn patience. It is not my strong suit, never has been and I fear, never will be.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud off in your life?
I would have to say I am pleased with what I was able to accomplish in television. Ascending to anchor at a network level is not an easy thing to do. I was proud of myself for having made it there.
*When were you happiest?
Wow, I’m not really sure. I hope that doesn’t mean I have never been happy in my life. Honestly though, and this requires some soul searching, I don’t know that I have ever been blissfully happy; there was always something I wanted to change about the situation. Not good.
*What ten words best describe you?
How on earth could I possibly describe all this in 10 words? Okay here goes. Witty, funny, smart, warm, caring, sincere, down-to-earth (I am counting that as one) loving, stubborn, temperamental.
Okay everyone – you see how easy it is! And how revealing a process it can be… so what are you waiting for – drop us a line and my team will get you going!