Sippy Cuts Or Social Security?
Yes we think he’s sexy and so does his third wife apparently because they’re still having sex! Rod Stewart and Penny Lancaster have just announced that she is pregnant with the couple’s second baby, his 8th child! I can attest he does have an irresistible charm. When I interviewed him a few years back, I couldn’t keep my hands off him.
But how old is too old to be fathering children? Look, Good Enough Mother lives in a big fat, freakin’ glass house on this one. Buff was 45 when we got married, 48 when Casey was born and 50 when Cole made his debut. He/we know all about the joys, and sometimes heartache that accompany being an older dad.
50 nowadays is still pretty young and gets younger everyday seein’ as I am a mere stone’s throw away from that magic number. And there is a little truth to that whole “age is just a number” mentality. But there’s more. The book Fathers of a Certain Age even argues that men in their late 40’s, 50’s even 60’s make better fathers because they are more secure in their careers and really ready to commit to family.
But at what point does it become all about ego and legacy? The life expectancy for white men in the US is just over 75 years old. So if Rod falls in that average, then he’s basically only going to be around until this kid is 10. Is that fair to the child?
Aside from whether dad will be around to watch junior grow up and graduate from high school there are other issues, ones I see with my own eyes, at least in the older father I am married to.
ENERGY LEVEL: When the kids were young, this wasn’t a big deal. But now that they are in their teens and Buff is in his 60’s I do notice the poor guy seems to wear out faster than he used to. Some of that might be the fact that Buff works long hours and when he comes home there just isn’t a whole lot left for kids who have enough energy to power a small city.
PATIENCE: This is directly related to energy I believe. Buff is mentally spent when he comes home. To listen to DAD, DAD, DAD, DAD, CAN I HAVE, CAN I HAVE, CAN I HAVE is pretty much like the dentist’s drill, incessant and painful. All he wants to do is to come home, eat a meal, watch TV and take his pants off and not necessarily in that order. He would like to do it without drama as well.
RELATE-ABILITY: This is perhaps the biggest issue I see. The 50-year age gap between Buff and Cole is pretty profound when you consider the era in which Buff grew up. He was a child of two middle-class, working parents who gave him what they could but money was tight. Cole, on the other hand, is a child who wants for little and needs even less.
Because of Buff’s upbringing, he had to grow up fast; even at age 8 he was much more responsible than Cole is because he had to be. It is confounding to Buff as to why Cole isn’t more like him to which I reply, because he is not him!
But the pros far outweigh the cons in this case. The biggest pro of all is watching Buff puff up with pride when he talks about his kids. There is no question in my mind where we fit in his life and it is right at the top. We are as necessary to him as breathing and though he claims to crave peace and the occasional low-key weekend, he cannot imagine his life without these kids. I know because he tells me but more than that, I see it on his face every, single day. I do love that man.
But what do you think? Is 65 too old to be dipping a toe into a life of diapers and midnight feedings all over again? Or is age indeed just a number?