Good Enough Mother is a little sad this morning. And angry. I’m saddened by this crazy Lindsay Lohan mess. She’s no longer that bright eyed girl I met all those years ago and constant partying and troubles have aged her so much it’s hard to believe she just turned 24. And I’m pissed at her parents who, no matter how you look at it, must shoulder some of the blame for what has become of their daughter.
The latest assessment of Lindsay and her state of mind comes from famed attorney
Stuart V. Goldberg who’s handled many high profile cases over the years. But despite a lengthy meeting he declined to take on Lohan’s case after her attorney quit.
However Goldberg did give his assessment after spending time with the troubled actress. Among other things he said that Lindsay seemed to be “a fragile lost child – a sleeping beauty with her head in the sand.” Goldberg felt she did not fully understand what was about to happen to her and that she was in genuine pain.
But truth be told, it’s been hard to muster even a modicum of sympathy for Lindsay. See those of us who live in the real world, going to work everyday, showing up lucid and sober when we’re supposed to, obeying the law, have watched with mouths agape as Lindsay flaunted her nose at the system and generally thought she was better than everyone else. But does she bear sole responsibility? I really don’t think so. It seems to me she had the proverbial ice cube’s chance in hell, given the parental lottery of Michael and Dina Lohan.
Lindsay was their ticket to fame and fortune. Without her, no one would be snapping photos or giving them free Carvel Ice Cream cakes or even entertaining the idea of giving them a reality show. It was Michael and Dina’s proximity to someone who was once one of the hottest young actresses that opened all those doors. And not only did these parents abuse that, it blinded them from carrying out one of the most basic parental duties; preparing your kid for life on their own.
Lindsay’s father, Michael Lohan never met a camera he didn’t love and his efforts to achieve fame on the back of his child are rivaled only by those of Kate Gosselin. Three stints in prison, a drunk-driving arrest, fistfights with his brother-in-law, and divorce from Dina have all colored Michael’s relationship with his oldest child. (Dina called him a loser last year and said he needed a “Book for Dummies” to learn how to be a father). But the truly distasteful thing is watching Michael beat feet to the nearest press conference anytime something goes on with Lindsay.
Here he is on Fox News, defending the time he spent with his daughter.
Then there’s Mommie Dearest. Has there ever been a bigger enabler than Lindsay’s mother, Dina Lohan? While the rest of the world watched in horror as the downward spiral continued, Dina insisted that Lindsay was O.K. Did Dina have knowledge that we didn’t or was she just too close to the forest to see the trees? This woman clearly loves the good life that her daughter provides. She’s front and center at fashion shows with Lindsay as well as her frequent party pal. The mere fact that she called the cops when she was denied her ice cream cake tells you about her warped view of what’s important.
It is human nature for us to want to be liked. I want people to like me and would love it if my kids thought I was cool. But that is not my job as a parent. I am supposed to care for them and shepherd them into adulthood, giving them the tools they will need to navigate life. While I would love to shield them from disappointment, my job is really to teach them how to handle when life doesn’t go their way. Sometimes that requires me to be a hard-ass and I’m actually quite good at it. I am not their friend; I am their mother.
Too bad Lindsay didn’t have that in either parent. Poor girl.
So what would you say to the Lohans if you had the chance?