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Husbands do they help or Hinder?

I think that it does depend on the day and the demands on both of our time. Most of the time, my husband tries to help but either my 9 month daughter wants it done the "mommy way" or he doesn't do it in my time or to my expectation. I am getting better at not expecting him to be me as well as communicating the way that I do things with our daughter so that he has the information and he can either use it or do something totally different. And that is okay! :-) I am also trying to give him more opportunities to do things with my daughter (everyday tasks as well as play). I know that sometimes my husband feels that it is easier and less stressful for all for me to handle things such as feeding and bed time. I try to encourage him wherever I can and remind him that if our roles were reversed and he stayed at home and I worked outside the home that we would probably have the issue the other way. He does help out wherever he can (especially since our 2nd child is due in 14 1/2 weeks).

Since I have been better at communicating what I need help with (in a nice non-nagging way), he has been better at pitching in.