It all started when my ex-husband and I fooled around knowing we were not going back. Now I’m 19 weeks pregnant! He had told me he had a female friend and he decided to stop hanging out with her and focus on my pregnancy and of course, I believed him.
Recently, my 10-year-old told me he wouldn’t want to see his father or me with someone else. But just as I was dropping him off at his grandmother’s (my ex-husband’s mom) for a family party, I heard his friend was there. I was upset and without thinking, ran to pick up my son because I didn’t want him to get hurt. His dad, meanwhile, had introduced this girl as a friend to everyone but my son, so my son was a bit confused.
That night, his mom said NASTY things to me, even doubting the baby I’m carrying is her son’s. After that weekend I did go off on him, of course. He was mad at me for butting in his life but I wanted him to use common sense; besides he said he was gonna be there for me and not see another girl and take her to family parties .
Now all of a sudden, he doesn’t want me hanging out with him. I told him I would take him back but he said it’s hard now since I divorced him 4 years ago. He also says he doesn’t want me hanging out with him but has agreed stop seeing the girl while he thinks this over.
The only concern I have is that this girl accepted all of this, knowing he was having another baby with me; what kind of girl is she? It’s hard but I’m afraid I will lose him forever. Please help!!
Scared And Alone
Can I be honest? I mean, girlfriend-to-girlfriend honest?
DAMN GIRL! What were you thinking?!
There’s so much going on here I’m not even sure where to start, a fact that I’m sure, is not lost on you. There are a lot of ways to answer this but the problem is.. so much of it rests on your past behavior (fooling around with your ex-husband without a plan for what could and ultimately DID happen being chief among them). Looking in the rearview mirror is just not good for anyone (except as a way to figure out what NOT to do in the future), so let’s focus on going forward. Here’s what I would do if I were you.