Monday Morning Motivation:
Rocky Relationship? 3 Signs It’s Time To Let.It.Go!
Hey y’all we’re off to the races on another fabulous Monday! Hope you had a restful and relaxing weekend. Oh okay, just a weekend then.
I had the great pleasure of speaking at the 3rd annual She Streams New York on Friday, a conference that connects women and brands through technology and social media. It was a wonderful conference, not only for the knowledge but the chance to catch up with some great women and men doing wonderful work in the blogosphere.
After the conference, I had a chance to spend some more time with friends (yes, there was a pizza.. and a little wine) when the conversation turned to relationships.
Relationships.. man are they tough and in some cases, even harder than that. And while it’s admirable to “stick it out”, in some cases, knowing when to let go is the real victory.
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I’ve always prided myself on my ability (aka: stubborn personality) to hang in there, even through the rocky patches. But is that always a good thing?
When I look back of some of my past relationships, it was clear they should have been severed long before they actually were. So here are three clues I found that indicate it’s time to let those partnerships go.
THEY ARE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE
IN NATURE
I think The Temptations and The Undisputed Truth said it best..
“Smiling faces show no traces of the evil that lurks within…”
Passive-aggression is the “indirect expression of hostility” and we know what that feels like. Those are the worst kinds of relationships because they always keep you off-balance. You’re constantly asking, “Was that a joke, joke or was that a dig at me?” And if they’d say/act like that to you in person, what are they saying/doing behind your back? Oh.. so not worth it.
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THEY’RE NOT HELPING
YOU TO BE YOUR BEST
Perhaps in the early going, you each brought out the best in one another but no more. Now your partner, co-worker, spouse, boss or friend is like a speck of sand under your eyelid. But not only are they irritating, the fact that they are keeping you off-balance (see above) means you have to spend time on issues you shouldn’t have to, therefore taking your eye off the ball.
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YOU ARE NOT
HAPPY OR FULFILLED
And finally.. THIS! Sometimes relationships simply run their course and yet we hang on, either hoping things will change or fear the change of letting go of them will bring. If they’ve run their course, the change will bring more relief than fear. Trust me; this I know.
Read more: Why Reinvention ROCKS!
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Okay your turn.. have you had (or do you have now) relationships that should have been deep-sixed, but you are still holding on to them? If so, Why?