My Husband’s Father Wants Back In His Life;
Should I Help?
My husband, “Eddie,” grew up without his father. His dad walked out on the family when Eddie was a toddler. The last time he saw his father was 15-years ago, at a funeral.
About a year ago, Eddie’s father, “James,” started calling him, now he calls once or twice a month. James lives an hour away from us, and I’ve encouraged Eddie to visit and talk to him face-to-face. Eddie is ambivalent about this, which I understand but at the same time, we have a son and daughter who have a grandfather they’ve never met. My father is dead, so Eddie’s father is all they have. I guess my thinking is that James was a rotten father, but he might be a pretty good grandfather. The only person who can determine that is Eddie. I don’t want to push him, but I do want him to see another perspective on the issue. Should I back off?
Sign me: Peacemaker in Portland
I think I can sum up the answer to this question in two words. Yes you should help. You want to know how? By butting out.
Yeah I said it. Butt Out.
That’s pretty much it. Harsh? Perhaps.. but here’s why I feel this way and what I would do if I were you.