Hi Rene.. can you help?
Last year, my daughter’s then-boyfriend—who is also her son’s father—beat her pretty badly. He punched her in the face and stomach and tried to strangle her with an extension cord. Because he has several prior felonies, he was imprisoned for 15 months. He was just released from the county jail. I know that he will always be in her life because they have a child together, but quite frankly, I don’t want to have anything to do with him. She and my grandson live with me. Is it reasonable to put limits on when and how he visits my grandson?
Worried Grand Rapids Granny
Ugh.. this is a tough one. Domestic violence is no joke and I have serious reservations about ever allowing him to come to your house and honestly, given the severity of the beating, I’m not sure why there isn’t an order of protection already in place. Again I must reiterate that I am not a domestic violence counselor not an officer of the court but I will give you my common sense answer. However, I suggest you seek out someone versed in this before making your decisions. Having said that, here’s what I would do if I were in your shoes.