I Despise My Husband’s Stepson!
I recently married a man who has an 8-year-old daughter and a 15-year-old stepson from his previous marriage. I love his daughter; she’s a wonderful girl and I’ve become friends with her mother (my husband’s ex-wife).
However, the stepson Brian (the ex-wife’s son from another relationship) is awful! He lies, has stolen money from me, and he runs away from home. My husband has been in his Brian’s life since he was 5 or 6-years-old. Even though the stepson’s father is involved in his life, I know my husband has been a constant influence and a better father figure. I wouldn’t dream of asking him to end or limit his relationship with his stepson. But I have to be honest: I don’t want him coming over. How do I handle this?
Signed: Not-So-Evil Stepmother
Dear Not-so-Evil Stepmom:
I’m gonna give you some advice, simple first and then I will explain. I’m almost POSITIVE you will not like me for saying it. But here goes.
This situation may not be ideal (when is it ever) so you’re going to have to make the most of it. So here’s what I would do if I were you.