How Can We Get The
Marriage Magic Back?
I’ve been married for 27 years to John, a wonderful man. We have 4 children, and the last one just left home for college. Needless to say, it’s very quiet around the house! Now that all the kids are gone, John and I don’t have anything to talk about. It was never obvious to me that for 25 years, most of our activities revolved around the family. Even on our date nights, the conversations are about the kids.
I love John and I know he loves me. We are both committed to our marriage, so this isn’t an issue of separation or divorce. However, I want the rest of our lives together to be fulfilling. I don’t want to grow apart. After all this time, what can I do to bring back the magic?
Longing in Lafayette
Can I just say, I totally get ya? I feel your pain! The intensity of raising kids can, if you’re not careful, suck the life right on out of you.. and your marriage. I know that clergy and counselors talk about not letting that happen but the reality is that it is really hard to do. Really, REALLY hard. I think the really great part of about your letter is that the two of you are committed to each other, committed to finding the way back. So to that end, here’s what I would (and will) do if I were you.