To My Daughter:
3 Good Reasons Not To “Opt Out”
I read something the other day that stopped me in my tracks.
It was a piece in The New York Times Magazine about college-educated women who, a decade ago, “opted out” of their high-powered jobs so that they could stay at home with their kids. Two things surprised me about this story; first that it was 10 years ago.. I remember when this was being talked about, and met with some skepticism.
And secondly, that these women, obviously bright, well-educated and on-the-ball, were having a hard time getting back into the working world, not at all an unusual phenomenon.
But now, after a decade, these women who “opted out” making the decision they thought was the best for themselves and their families, are having second thoughts. And it’s proving late to try to get back in the game.
I was talking to my nearly 17-year-old daughter about this the other day and I reiterated to her what I told my friend and colleague Debbie Mitchell; never, ever opt out completely.
Now I realize a couple of things; I have the benefit of perspective. I know firsthand about the very long and arduous recession our country has been mired in. But there’s something else.
To that end, there are three reasons I told my daughter not to opt out completely.