Bringing Up Baby:
Are You Giving Your Kids (And YOU) The Most Important Gift?
Every few weeks there’s a new “meme” circulating Facebook and Instagram. For those that don’t know, “memes” are sayings or images passed along through social media – i.e. the new generation of one-liners. Most often I scroll passed them on my timeline – but there is one floating around that recently stopped me in my tracks.
“You will never have this day with your children again. Today is a gift. Breathe and notice. Study their little faces and feet. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today mama, it will be gone before you know it.”
I read it, reread it and then cried a little. I am tearing up as I write this. This meme articulated something I’ve been thinking about for a long time but didn’t have the words to say. More importantly, I didn’t know how to change my constant quest for what’s around the corner. Why AM I always in such a hurry? My husband jokes that we could be having the best time ever and all I’m thinking is, “Ok this is great, what’s next?”
With the kids however, every moment is a precious moment I won’t get back. Just 6 months ago my son was a helpless newborn; today he’s eating puree, rolling over and giggling like crazy. In a few short months my daughter went from riding tentatively on training wheels to barreling down the street on her two-wheeler.
The other night she was supposed to help me in the garden. Instead she was twirling around giggling. For a second I was going to say, “Okay now, finish helping me. Bedtime is almost here.”
Then I stopped myself. What is more important than this unabashed release of joy? I sat there and watched her.
Relish the charms of the present.
I know there are other moms out there like me, always in a hurry, both hands full, just trying to make everything right. Slow down. Take a little time to enjoy it all. As the meme says, it will be gone before you know it.
Ok, I’m in tears again.
What about you? Are you giving your kids.. and you THE most important gift? If you’re looking for ideas, here are a couple of cool ways to do just that.