I am a full-time working mother of four children ages, 13, 11, 8 and 6. My husband is wonderful but out of the house for 12-14 hours a day. I find myself becoming overwhelmed, frustrated and short tempered with the kids as a result of the responsiblities of running the house, kids and office. My husband comes home and is “fun daddy” while I feel as if I am nothing but the nag. I was brought up that anything boys can do girls can do. I am not happy. I don’t want my kids to look back on their childhood and think “my mom worked so hard but was never happy”. I just don’t know where to start to let go a little. It’s overwhelming to own your own buisness and have a family. I feel as if I cannot give either one my full attention and eveyone including me suffers. Any suggestions would be extremely helpful.
Signed: Tired Mommy
Hi Tired Mommy:
First, come closer. I’m gonna have you sit right here in the virtual Good Enough Mother World Headquarters (my walk-in closet) and take a load off. Then I’m going to hand you a glass of cold water (or whatever beverage you’d like) and some cold cucumbers to put over your eyes. Then you’re going to sit in there, still, hidden from the family and the world, and you’re going to take care of you, if even just for a few minutes.
Okay that is my virtual prescription and I offer it sort of tongue-in-cheek but you are going to need to do this for yourself.. Yes. This.
You asked for ideas.. so here’s what I would do if I were you.. and STAT!