My husband and I have been married for ten years. We have three small children, one of which is an infant. About three years ago we found out that my husband’s sister and her husband both have AIDS. They were both unfaithful during their marriage.
Since then I have not been comfortable with my small children being around them. I have expressed this to my husband, but since it is his sister, he brushes it off. His entire family acts like nothing is wrong and no one takes any safety precautions around them (whatever they could be).
I recently went out of town on a business trip and my husband took my children to their home without my knowledge and they stayed overnight. He did not tell me because he knew I would be upset. During the visit she held my children and rocked one of them to sleep. I am not at all comfortable with this!
Now that I have a newborn, I am even more anxious with my children being around them. The family wants us to visit and I do not want to go nor do I want my children to go. I do not want some freak accident to happen and have my children or myself contract this disease. Am I being unreasonable?
Torn in the South
Wow, well yes, you have a problem but I’m pretty sure it’s not the one you’re thinking of. Before I launch into my answer, let me say I am not a medical doctor; any information or advice I give should be backed up with the opinion of a medical professional. Having said that, here’s what I would do if I were you.