Ask The Good Enough Guys:
Are The Holidays The Right Time For THIS Conversation?

Well, hello!  How are you?  Welcome to the weekend.

So we’ve got another great question for the guys, and it all has to do with my girly curiosity.  I was watching Love Actually after Rene and I had our production meeting about the question for the week, and this clip (which has always gotten to me) helped get me to thinking.

Short explanation is there’s a man in love with his friend’s wife, he confesses his love at Christmas, and walks away, unrequited, but happy and healthy.  As a woman who is currently going through her own rough patch, that scene gives me hope; hope that there really is some secret confession forthcoming this season, but I had a sneaking suspicion that I might be aiming a little high on that one.  So what you have here is not just a question, but my thinly veiled plea to the guys to know if this holiday season might have some sort of magical twist.  Here’s the response I got from Mark Androvich:

“Life is uncertain.  You need to tell people you love them when you have the chance which ought to be before they marry someone else. The winter holidays do bring out more in-depth conversations, and not just because more alcohol is brought out at these holidays than at Easter or Flag Day (at least, in my house). It’s the end of another year.  Time to look back on what we have accomplished or not accomplished.  ”And so this is Christmas, and what have you done,” said John Lennon.  Time to take stock of our current situation.  Others seize the opportunity to make New Year’s resolutions to change something in their lives, or they take chances to tell the truth to a person because, as we all know, you have to tell the truth at Christmas.

For me, I am entering into this holiday season at the beginning of a new relationship.  We’ve started out right by being honest with each other, so there isn’t any “truth” I haven’t told her.  And, while actions may speak louder than words, that doesn’t mean words are unnecessary.  We always need to tell people we love them, if that is the truth, while we still have the chance.  Don’t assume they know.  Even though they probably do know, they still need to hear it.”

I think that sums it up quite nicely.  If you have a mate it should all be out on the table.  If you have a crush, don’t wait for them to approach you.  No, Mark didn’t say those exact words, but it is 2012 and if you want to know how someone feels about you, the best laid plan might be for your own holiday confession.  Time to take the plunge; this might not be the one for you or they might just be hopelessly anticipating your bold move.  Why wait?  This is your holiday, too. Seize it.

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Ella Rucker is a mother of a two-year-old girl and the guardian of two boys. She is currently working on dispelling the myth that being a “stay at home mom” has anything to do with staying at home. Ella moved from Ohio to New York City twelve years ago where she is currently assisting the head GEM and proving that sticking your neck out just might help you win the race. She loves to read about the “mental laws” and seeing them work in her life, but her greatest joy is laughing madly and wildly with her daughter who amazes her everyday. You can also find her writing for mochamanual.com or by following her tweets @ellalaverne.