I watch you on The Bill Cunningham Show and the advice you give the guests is so real and makes so much sense. I’m hoping you can help me too.
I am married to the love of my life. I am a mother of a 25-year-old daughter and a 14-year-old son. My son lives with his dad, a mutual decision we made after our divorce eight years ago.
I lost my job in November and my car died a couple of months later. My husband and I were having marital trouble so, due to financial hardships, I moved in with my parents and he stayed at the home we shared with his mom and my brother-in-law.
My husband, Jeffery and I are working on our relationship. I go over and spend a few days with him every week so we can stay connected even though we are living apart but, for the first time in my life, I haven’t been able to find a job (I was an office manager and have been doing management work for almost ten years).
I just need a chance to start anew a get back into the game of life. I miss some of the simple pleasures like dinner, movies, shopping, manicures and pedicures. Without a car it is very limiting to where I can look for a job. It has to be on the bus line so I can get there. I need a car to get a job and need a job to get a car.
I have friends but they are working and traveling with their families. I feel as though the world is for the haves and not the have-nots. Now I am a have not I see things so differently.
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Right off the top, as I see it, the two main issues are your unemployment and your relationship with your husband. Regarding the job situation, the first thing you have to remember is that nothing stays the same forever. I know it may not feel like it, as this has been one long, incredibly ugly recession.
A lot of people are out of work, many of whom had jobs that went away and, because of technology or other factors, may never come back. I only point that out to say that this is a different time and place and we all need to think differently about it. So here’s what I would do if I were you.