How do I stop hating the person I was married to for 19 years? Mike turned out to be a liar, thief and adulterer then he turned on me and said I was to blame for all of it. He lied to me because he did not want confrontation? He bounced thousands of dollars in checks and never said a word? He pawned all his guns to pay for? He told me I never did anything for him? Yeah, right.
I hate him, I have never said anything like that before, I have never hated anyone yet he brought so much pain into my life; how do I stop dwelling on the wrongs he forced into my life and move on?
Angry in Atlanta
Your signature says it all and I understand. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of hurt with people but it’s especially difficult when they are people who played such a big role in your life, like a spouse or best friend. The problem here is that until you release that hurt and hate (and I’m glad you admitted it as that’s the first step to healing), it’s going to be nearly impossible for you to move on. So here’s what I would do if I were you.