I did my own breast self-exam. I found a lump in my left breast. It was there for 60 days. I contacted my doctor, who confirmed the findings and sent me to a specialist, who did a mammogram, ultrasound, and biopsy.
I was numb. I was afraid. I was disoriented in the beginning. After I pulled myself together, I told my husband, parents, and siblings. I did not tell my children for seven months.
I was prescribed surgery and possibly radiation. All I needed was the surgery. The mass and diseased breast tissue were removed. I had breast cancer two times in the same breast and I had the same treatment.
I was surprised that they were able to surgically remove all the cancer.
Take in a deep breath. Don’t be afraid to get a second opinion. Ask the doctors for all medical options from the most intrusive to the least. Make the best medical decision for proceeding with your care. Be strong and have courage. Breast cancer can be beaten!
It has been five years.
I have learned that I have an inner strength and a voice of wisdom that I can rely upon and trust. I have learned that healing is a process and that involving your family in your diagnosis and your care is very vital for your total healing.
The one message to all the Good Enough Mothers is that doing your own monthly breast self-exam is a wise thing to do. If breast cancer is detected early, then it is definitely beatable.
Stacy King-Chaney is 49 years old and is married to Vaughn K. Chaney. They live in Philadelphia and they have three teenage daughters—14, 16, and 18 years old. Stacy is the pastor of Christ Christian Community Church in Media, PA. She is a former elementary and middle school teacher, who taught at the Presbyterian Learning Tree and Sanctuary Christian Academy, both in Philadelphia. Stacy enjoys cooking, creative writing, traveling, and spending time with her family.
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